1 00:00:59,977 --> 00:01:01,185 Come in! 2 00:01:17,119 --> 00:01:18,161 What? 3 00:01:20,122 --> 00:01:21,164 What are you doing? 4 00:01:22,332 --> 00:01:23,916 I was just thinking that... 5 00:01:27,963 --> 00:01:29,505 I could sleep in here tonight. 6 00:01:30,007 --> 00:01:32,091 In here? Why? Something wrong with your room? 7 00:01:32,176 --> 00:01:34,719 Is it too warm? Because I had that air conditioner completely... 8 00:01:34,803 --> 00:01:36,179 No. 9 00:01:38,056 --> 00:01:39,724 Well, then what? 10 00:01:41,852 --> 00:01:45,188 I just wanted... 11 00:01:50,527 --> 00:01:52,278 Well... 12 00:01:55,073 --> 00:01:56,824 I don't... 13 00:01:58,076 --> 00:01:59,368 I'm not feeling well... 14 00:02:01,914 --> 00:02:04,207 I had pork for lunch and I... 15 00:02:05,167 --> 00:02:09,212 I think it's probably best if we just... If I... 16 00:02:10,172 --> 00:02:11,297 That's okay. 17 00:02:11,381 --> 00:02:13,466 - I mean, I... - I'll just go back. 18 00:03:24,663 --> 00:03:26,414 Thank you. 19 00:03:53,317 --> 00:03:54,525 6:00? 20 00:03:55,444 --> 00:03:57,236 I'm making prime rib for our... 21 00:04:02,159 --> 00:04:04,076 - All right. - Bye! 22 00:04:06,246 --> 00:04:07,246 Bye. 23 00:04:12,169 --> 00:04:15,129 Think you can change your marriage? 24 00:04:15,213 --> 00:04:16,589 Change your marriage? 25 00:04:17,674 --> 00:04:18,799 What do you mean? 26 00:04:18,884 --> 00:04:22,929 Like you mostly eat in on Fridays and then you eat out? 27 00:04:23,013 --> 00:04:24,221 Or that you're at each other's throats 28 00:04:24,306 --> 00:04:27,224 and suddenly you're Cinderella and Prince Charming. 29 00:04:27,309 --> 00:04:28,601 The second one. 30 00:04:29,728 --> 00:04:31,062 No. No. 31 00:04:32,022 --> 00:04:35,232 You married who you marry, you are who you are. 32 00:04:35,317 --> 00:04:36,609 Why would that change? 33 00:04:36,693 --> 00:04:38,694 Well, if you wanted it to. 34 00:04:39,863 --> 00:04:44,408 No, I think for that to happen, it would have to be so bad 35 00:04:44,493 --> 00:04:48,037 that somebody was willing to risk everything just to shake things up 36 00:04:48,705 --> 00:04:50,331 and then it may not come down your way. 37 00:04:50,832 --> 00:04:54,335 No, change is hard. Marriages don't change. 38 00:04:56,463 --> 00:04:58,714 Hey, what are you making tonight? The kids still coming over? 39 00:04:59,508 --> 00:05:01,217 Yeah. Prime rib. 40 00:05:02,719 --> 00:05:06,472 Oh, they are so beautiful! 41 00:05:07,265 --> 00:05:09,225 Arnold? Just what we needed. 42 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:12,895 - I picked them out. - Show-off. 43 00:05:13,563 --> 00:05:15,022 So what'd you guys get each other? 44 00:05:15,107 --> 00:05:18,818 Yeah, 31 . What gift is that? Silver? Ivory? Paper? 45 00:05:18,902 --> 00:05:22,571 No, it isn't anything special. Just an off year. 46 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:28,619 We got each other the new cable subscription. 47 00:05:29,079 --> 00:05:30,579 Oh, great. 48 00:05:31,123 --> 00:05:32,540 It's a lot of channels. 49 00:05:36,586 --> 00:05:39,088 First of all, so many of you are dealing with, 50 00:05:39,172 --> 00:05:41,465 "Should I open the club face, or should I do this?" 51 00:05:42,592 --> 00:05:44,051 You can learn to break like this. 52 00:05:44,136 --> 00:05:48,514 All he's doing is he's taking the club back. He doesn't have a lot of wrist hinge at all. 53 00:05:48,598 --> 00:05:51,559 In fact, in the down-the-line view, what his swing looks like is, 54 00:05:51,643 --> 00:05:54,812 the head of the club is outside of the hands here. 55 00:05:54,896 --> 00:05:56,355 Very, very late wrist set. 56 00:05:56,440 --> 00:06:00,568 He gets up into here, like this, and then his body is moving forward 57 00:06:00,652 --> 00:06:03,904 while the club is going backwards and that's how you get this real... 58 00:06:06,950 --> 00:06:07,992 Arnold. 59 00:06:26,178 --> 00:06:27,636 Turn off the air down here? 60 00:06:43,195 --> 00:06:44,820 - Night. - Good night. 61 00:08:32,888 --> 00:08:34,346 I can't tell you how many 62 00:08:34,431 --> 00:08:38,350 questions I get on what constitutes the perfect marriage. 63 00:08:38,435 --> 00:08:42,271 I see couples who think their marriages are over. 64 00:08:42,355 --> 00:08:46,650 Who feel like it's impossible to regain what they once had. 65 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:52,031 Well, It's not. It's not impossible. And it's not too late 66 00:08:52,115 --> 00:08:56,035 for anyone who truly wants it and is willing to try. 67 00:09:18,225 --> 00:09:19,725 Thank you. 68 00:09:30,195 --> 00:09:31,820 What are you... You eating? 69 00:09:33,490 --> 00:09:34,865 No. I, I... 70 00:09:34,950 --> 00:09:37,451 What? You're just going to sit there? 71 00:09:41,998 --> 00:09:43,040 Okay. 72 00:09:43,667 --> 00:09:44,750 What do we got? 73 00:09:45,794 --> 00:09:47,002 I want to go. 74 00:09:48,088 --> 00:09:51,173 "Dr. Bernard Feld, Center for Intensive Couples Counseling." 75 00:09:51,258 --> 00:09:53,592 You want to go to intensive couples counseling? 76 00:09:53,677 --> 00:09:55,177 - In Maine. - Maine. 77 00:09:55,262 --> 00:09:56,720 Only half the day. 78 00:09:56,805 --> 00:10:00,641 Rest of the day you can read, or look around the town. 79 00:10:00,725 --> 00:10:01,976 $4,000 for a week? 80 00:10:02,102 --> 00:10:04,770 - Well, it's intensive. - Have to be gold-plated. 81 00:10:04,854 --> 00:10:06,021 Well, I paid for it. 82 00:10:08,108 --> 00:10:09,191 How? 83 00:10:09,276 --> 00:10:12,069 - I used my C.D. - How'd you get access to your C.D.? 84 00:10:12,153 --> 00:10:13,362 I called Vince. 85 00:10:13,822 --> 00:10:15,531 You called my office without talking to me. 86 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:19,243 I made a reservation for us. 87 00:10:19,327 --> 00:10:21,036 Well, cancel it. 88 00:10:24,291 --> 00:10:25,291 I want to go. 89 00:10:26,334 --> 00:10:27,543 Have you been to see Dr. Lesser? 90 00:10:27,627 --> 00:10:29,461 Maybe this has something to do with that hormonal thing. 91 00:10:29,546 --> 00:10:31,672 I am not crazy, Arnold! 92 00:10:31,756 --> 00:10:32,965 Well, then I don't know what to say to you. 93 00:10:33,049 --> 00:10:36,218 - In all our years together, never have I... - Have you heard me ask for anything? 94 00:10:36,303 --> 00:10:39,430 Excuse me? Did we not just get a new refrigerator because you wanted... 95 00:10:39,514 --> 00:10:40,973 That's not what I mean. 96 00:10:41,391 --> 00:10:43,976 Well, you're a grown woman. You can go anywhere you want to go. 97 00:10:44,060 --> 00:10:45,394 But I'm not going. 98 00:10:45,854 --> 00:10:49,064 So if you want to go to intensive couples counseling all by yourself, 99 00:10:49,149 --> 00:10:50,566 I'll see you when you get back. 100 00:10:50,650 --> 00:10:52,943 - Maybe I will. - All right. 101 00:10:54,738 --> 00:10:55,904 Maybe I will. 102 00:10:56,406 --> 00:10:59,825 You're not going to get audited over $217. 103 00:11:01,703 --> 00:11:03,037 Well, you're just not. 104 00:11:03,705 --> 00:11:06,290 All right! Call Terri to make an appointment. 105 00:11:06,666 --> 00:11:08,375 Yes, and thank you. Bye. 106 00:11:16,885 --> 00:11:18,344 You know, Kay called me. I meant to tell you. 107 00:11:18,428 --> 00:11:22,848 That's nothing. She's just been acting kind of off, is all. 108 00:11:22,932 --> 00:11:25,392 - Off? How? - I don't know. Threatening me. 109 00:11:25,477 --> 00:11:27,394 What does she want? Car? Vacation, something? 110 00:11:27,479 --> 00:11:30,022 No. Yeah, a vacation. 111 00:11:30,607 --> 00:11:32,733 I'll tell you, when Susan used to threaten me, 112 00:11:32,817 --> 00:11:34,109 I did what we all want to do. 113 00:11:34,194 --> 00:11:35,736 Head up to Brewsky's, not call, 114 00:11:35,820 --> 00:11:38,364 come home late piss drunk, a big "screw you." 115 00:11:39,282 --> 00:11:40,741 You see how that worked out. 116 00:11:41,326 --> 00:11:42,534 If I had to do it again, 117 00:11:42,619 --> 00:11:46,705 I'd be on it with flowers, a card, dinner, maybe even a necklace. 118 00:11:46,790 --> 00:11:49,333 I'd be in there like the Orkin Man and kill that thing dead. 119 00:11:49,417 --> 00:11:51,085 Maybe then I wouldn't be in a condo. 120 00:12:12,607 --> 00:12:14,525 The girl liked those best. 121 00:12:15,151 --> 00:12:17,236 I told her how much you liked the ocean. 122 00:12:20,740 --> 00:12:23,575 This is your boarding pass. 123 00:12:23,660 --> 00:12:24,910 Oh, come on. 124 00:12:24,994 --> 00:12:26,662 The flight leaves at 10:02 in the morning. 125 00:12:26,746 --> 00:12:28,831 What is wrong with you? What are you trying to do to us? 126 00:12:30,250 --> 00:12:32,126 I want a real marriage again, Arnold. 127 00:12:32,335 --> 00:12:36,088 A real marriage? This isn't real after 31 years? This isn't real? 128 00:12:36,172 --> 00:12:39,925 When's the last time that you touched me that wasn't just for a picture? 129 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:42,845 When's the last time you kissed me? 130 00:12:42,929 --> 00:12:44,346 I kiss you every day. 131 00:12:48,184 --> 00:12:51,311 We're not 22 years old anymore, things change. 132 00:12:55,191 --> 00:12:58,318 I could be more... You know. I could... 133 00:13:00,363 --> 00:13:01,655 This is insane. 134 00:13:02,323 --> 00:13:06,368 The flight leaves at 10:02 tomorrow. I'm going to be on it. 135 00:13:07,620 --> 00:13:09,163 Your supper's on the table. 136 00:13:09,539 --> 00:13:11,415 You're not even... You're not even gonna... 137 00:13:14,210 --> 00:13:15,294 Aren't... 138 00:13:23,094 --> 00:13:25,637 So if you're one of those people that's looking for more distance, 139 00:13:25,722 --> 00:13:29,016 well if you're doing this, guess what? I don't like your chances. 140 00:13:57,170 --> 00:13:58,212 Good morning. 141 00:13:58,630 --> 00:14:02,341 - Morning, ma'am. Let me take this for you. - Thank you. 142 00:14:05,220 --> 00:14:07,888 - Where we going today? - To the airport. 143 00:15:23,006 --> 00:15:24,798 I hope you're happy. 144 00:15:45,528 --> 00:15:47,529 How far is this place, anyway? 145 00:15:47,614 --> 00:15:49,531 Only a couple of hours. 146 00:15:49,616 --> 00:15:52,409 Couple of hours. That's enough to put us in Canada. 147 00:15:55,496 --> 00:15:57,664 I'm really glad you came, Arnold. 148 00:15:57,749 --> 00:15:58,957 Yeah? 149 00:15:59,042 --> 00:16:01,877 Well, you tell me that when we get lost and wind up in downtown Montreal 150 00:16:01,961 --> 00:16:03,754 and everybody's talking French. 151 00:16:21,397 --> 00:16:23,023 There's a hotel. Is that it? 152 00:16:24,609 --> 00:16:26,026 No. 153 00:16:27,070 --> 00:16:28,904 We're at the Econo Lodge. 154 00:16:57,225 --> 00:16:59,101 They were in the car, under the seat. 155 00:17:05,233 --> 00:17:07,025 What time does this thing start in the morning? 156 00:17:07,110 --> 00:17:08,151 10:30. 157 00:17:08,653 --> 00:17:10,946 We might as well be on time. 158 00:17:11,030 --> 00:17:12,280 Get our money's worth. 159 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:15,659 I'll set the alarm. 160 00:17:15,743 --> 00:17:17,202 I wouldn't give us too much extra time. 161 00:17:17,286 --> 00:17:20,497 It's probably impossible to get lost in a burg this size. 162 00:17:23,292 --> 00:17:24,459 - Well... - Well... 163 00:17:26,546 --> 00:17:28,171 We, we could... 164 00:17:29,757 --> 00:17:32,801 I guess I'll go see how the pull-out works. 165 00:17:40,226 --> 00:17:44,020 Goddamn! How is this thing supposed to... 166 00:17:44,105 --> 00:17:47,482 I'll do it. 167 00:17:47,608 --> 00:17:50,277 You think there's a building in this place that does not have shutters? 168 00:17:50,361 --> 00:17:52,571 The whole town looks like it was built by Hansel and Gretel. 169 00:17:52,655 --> 00:17:54,364 I think it's charming. 170 00:17:54,449 --> 00:17:57,492 That's what they want you to think. You think he did it on purpose? 171 00:17:57,577 --> 00:17:59,119 Picking the most remote possible... 172 00:17:59,203 --> 00:18:01,246 I mean, you're trapped here. It's like Alcatraz. 173 00:18:01,330 --> 00:18:03,498 Maybe he just wanted people to have to get away. 174 00:18:03,583 --> 00:18:06,668 From what? Cell phone service? I don't even have one bar. 175 00:18:08,463 --> 00:18:11,298 Think you can get a decent plate of eggs anywhere in this zip code? 176 00:18:11,382 --> 00:18:13,383 Oh, there's a... That little place looks sweet. 177 00:18:13,468 --> 00:18:14,426 That place? 178 00:18:14,510 --> 00:18:17,304 I guarantee you that place does not serve breakfast for under $10. 179 00:18:17,388 --> 00:18:18,764 You're a captive audience here. 180 00:18:18,848 --> 00:18:21,141 - We're only here for a week. - It's like an airport. 181 00:18:21,225 --> 00:18:23,310 - We might as well try... - A week? I'll be bankrupt in a week. 182 00:18:23,394 --> 00:18:25,061 Let's go. Come on. 183 00:18:27,815 --> 00:18:29,399 Coffee to start? 184 00:18:29,525 --> 00:18:31,067 Yes. Please. 185 00:18:31,152 --> 00:18:35,071 Is there anything on this menu that doesn't have lobster in it? 186 00:18:35,573 --> 00:18:37,240 See, there are your eggs. 187 00:18:37,325 --> 00:18:38,784 And, look, they have a breakfast special. 188 00:18:38,951 --> 00:18:41,119 What's special about $11 .75? 189 00:18:41,204 --> 00:18:43,580 All right, I'm going to have a side of two eggs, 190 00:18:43,664 --> 00:18:45,165 sunny side up, and a side of bacon, crisp. 191 00:18:45,249 --> 00:18:46,958 I'll just give you the special. It comes with the... 192 00:18:47,043 --> 00:18:49,544 Nope. The special's $1 more. 193 00:18:49,879 --> 00:18:50,879 And for you? 194 00:18:50,963 --> 00:18:53,840 Yes. I'm just going to have the fruit and cottage cheese plate. 195 00:18:53,925 --> 00:18:56,134 I have a nervous stomach. 196 00:18:57,553 --> 00:18:59,262 And we're in a tiny bit of a hurry because... 197 00:18:59,347 --> 00:19:03,016 You got the 10:30 with Bernie. We'll get you there on time. 198 00:19:03,100 --> 00:19:04,434 Good luck. 199 00:19:07,897 --> 00:19:09,314 There it is. 200 00:19:09,774 --> 00:19:11,858 - Nice digs. - Yeah. 201 00:19:15,988 --> 00:19:19,741 If he says one word about repressed memories, I am leaving. 202 00:19:22,578 --> 00:19:24,496 Kay and Arnold, I'm so glad you're here. 203 00:19:24,747 --> 00:19:26,957 Well, that makes one of us. 204 00:19:28,417 --> 00:19:31,044 So, Arnold, I take it intensive therapy was not your idea. 205 00:19:31,295 --> 00:19:32,587 Nope! 206 00:19:33,047 --> 00:19:34,256 You wanted to come? 207 00:19:34,632 --> 00:19:35,674 Yes. 208 00:19:35,758 --> 00:19:37,050 All right. And Arnold, you? 209 00:19:37,134 --> 00:19:39,177 I thought she was nuts. 210 00:19:39,262 --> 00:19:42,931 We're not in the same tax bracket as your other patients. 211 00:19:43,182 --> 00:19:44,432 I think you'd be surprised. 212 00:19:44,517 --> 00:19:49,396 Well, even if we were, all due respect. I really don't see the point here. 213 00:19:50,815 --> 00:19:52,732 So, you think there's nothing wrong with your marriage. 214 00:19:53,192 --> 00:19:56,027 Well, we've been married 31 years, isn't it? 215 00:19:57,947 --> 00:19:59,614 It's not perfect. 216 00:19:59,782 --> 00:20:02,617 But in your opinion, it works well enough. 217 00:20:04,954 --> 00:20:06,454 But you wanted to come. 218 00:20:08,416 --> 00:20:09,875 You persuaded Arnold? 219 00:20:09,959 --> 00:20:12,168 No. I mean, I paid for it. 220 00:20:14,130 --> 00:20:16,339 With my own money, from savings. 221 00:20:16,632 --> 00:20:18,508 All right. So this is really important to you. 222 00:20:21,304 --> 00:20:22,721 Tell me why. 223 00:20:23,139 --> 00:20:27,601 I want to have a marriage again. 224 00:20:27,685 --> 00:20:28,727 Again? 225 00:20:28,811 --> 00:20:31,104 If we don't have a marriage, I don't know who does. 226 00:20:31,188 --> 00:20:34,649 Arnold. Let's let Kay talk and you can respond after. 227 00:20:34,901 --> 00:20:37,277 Okay. Fine. "Again." 228 00:20:39,322 --> 00:20:41,823 - Arnold used to touch me. - Oh, God. 229 00:20:41,908 --> 00:20:45,952 Not just... You know, 230 00:20:47,204 --> 00:20:50,707 but he would touch my arm or my shoulder, just to... 231 00:20:52,043 --> 00:20:54,961 Just to, I don't know, because he wanted to. 232 00:20:55,338 --> 00:20:56,588 And now he doesn't? 233 00:20:59,175 --> 00:21:01,301 And that bothers you. 234 00:21:02,637 --> 00:21:04,346 Do you touch him? 235 00:21:05,222 --> 00:21:07,724 Not really. He doesn't like it. 236 00:21:09,101 --> 00:21:11,353 Is she right, Arnold? Do you like it when she touches you? 237 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:13,188 I don't know. 238 00:21:13,272 --> 00:21:15,106 - You don't know? - I don't think about it. 239 00:21:17,360 --> 00:21:18,777 All right. 240 00:21:23,324 --> 00:21:24,366 What else, Kay? 241 00:21:24,450 --> 00:21:30,205 Well, it feels like we live in the house together like two... 242 00:21:31,958 --> 00:21:34,542 Like two workers who bunk in the same room. 243 00:21:36,253 --> 00:21:39,547 Except we don't... We're not in the same room, 244 00:21:39,632 --> 00:21:45,011 but it just feels like there's nothing holding us together except the house. 245 00:21:45,096 --> 00:21:47,347 Nothing holding us together like 31 years of... 246 00:21:48,557 --> 00:21:50,725 - Of what, Arnold? - Marriage. 247 00:21:52,061 --> 00:21:53,520 What does that word mean to you? 248 00:21:53,604 --> 00:21:56,064 Means we have a marriage license and I pay all the bills. 249 00:21:56,148 --> 00:21:58,483 Not to mention our two grown... 250 00:21:59,485 --> 00:22:00,902 You really have lost your mind. 251 00:22:01,237 --> 00:22:04,322 Let's try to keep the conversation descriptive and positive. 252 00:22:07,159 --> 00:22:09,035 Kay, please continue. 253 00:22:14,125 --> 00:22:16,001 We don't talk about anything. 254 00:22:16,085 --> 00:22:19,045 Talk! What is there I don't know about you? 255 00:22:19,130 --> 00:22:20,755 About Eileen and the skirts she bought 256 00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:24,217 or if she took back the little necklace with the tiki gods. 257 00:22:24,301 --> 00:22:25,510 Jesus Christ. 258 00:22:25,594 --> 00:22:28,430 No, I don't mean... I just mean, I don't... 259 00:22:30,891 --> 00:22:34,853 I don't tell Arnold how I feel about anything. 260 00:22:36,188 --> 00:22:38,690 And I don't know how he feels about anything either. 261 00:22:38,774 --> 00:22:40,692 I'll tell you how I feel about this, I hate it. 262 00:22:40,776 --> 00:22:42,652 All right. This is good. 263 00:22:42,737 --> 00:22:43,778 Good. Yeah. Good for you. 264 00:22:43,946 --> 00:22:45,196 The more we tear each other apart, 265 00:22:45,281 --> 00:22:47,866 the more money we have to pay you to put it back together. 266 00:22:47,950 --> 00:22:51,244 Jesus God. You people are worse than lawyers. 267 00:22:52,997 --> 00:22:54,414 I understand how you feel. 268 00:22:54,498 --> 00:22:55,832 Yeah? 269 00:22:55,916 --> 00:22:59,044 You two have come here to try to restore intimacy to your marriage. 270 00:22:59,128 --> 00:23:02,922 So that is going to be the goal of our very focused sessions together. 271 00:23:03,007 --> 00:23:06,092 To find ways to communicate your needs to one another. 272 00:23:06,177 --> 00:23:08,094 To cultivate intimacy. 273 00:23:08,179 --> 00:23:12,265 And to develop the tools to sustain that intimacy going forward. 274 00:23:17,146 --> 00:23:19,439 The first step in rebuilding a marriage 275 00:23:19,523 --> 00:23:23,902 is tearing away some of the scar tissue that has built up over the years. 276 00:23:24,361 --> 00:23:27,030 It can be very painful, but it's worth it. 277 00:23:27,114 --> 00:23:28,490 I like to think of it... 278 00:23:28,574 --> 00:23:33,995 The metaphor of when you have a deviated septum and you can't breathe? 279 00:23:34,872 --> 00:23:38,041 You have to break the nose in order to fix it. 280 00:23:43,589 --> 00:23:44,631 Charlatan! 281 00:23:44,715 --> 00:23:48,301 No, he's worse than a charlatan. He's like one of those... 282 00:23:48,385 --> 00:23:50,637 Says he's "honed his method." The only thing he's honed 283 00:23:50,721 --> 00:23:54,432 is making sure that if you don't walk in with a marriage-destroying problem, 284 00:23:54,517 --> 00:23:56,434 you won't leave without one. 285 00:23:56,519 --> 00:24:00,480 He's like those moisturizing eye drops that make your eyes dry. 286 00:24:00,564 --> 00:24:03,316 $4,000. That could have been a new roof! 287 00:24:03,651 --> 00:24:06,778 Did you look at his credentials or even read that brochure that you... 288 00:24:06,862 --> 00:24:07,904 I mean, my God! 289 00:24:08,030 --> 00:24:12,033 Unbelievable! I'd like to have a look at this guy's tax returns. 290 00:24:13,035 --> 00:24:17,080 Oh, don't. Come on, just don't. 291 00:24:19,542 --> 00:24:20,959 You have to stop yelling at me. 292 00:24:21,043 --> 00:24:22,544 I'm not yelling! Who's yelling? 293 00:24:22,628 --> 00:24:24,045 Hey. Welcome back. 294 00:24:24,130 --> 00:24:26,297 I'll have an Arnold Palmer and a tuna melt. 295 00:24:26,382 --> 00:24:28,800 You sure you're ready to commit? 296 00:24:30,553 --> 00:24:33,721 - I'll have the soup and salad, please. - Okey-dokey. 297 00:24:35,307 --> 00:24:39,894 $9 for a tuna melt, it's canned tuna, a slab of cheese and toast. 298 00:24:39,979 --> 00:24:42,105 Feld's probably getting kickbacks. 299 00:24:43,983 --> 00:24:46,484 I saw a grocery store near the motel. 300 00:24:46,569 --> 00:24:48,820 We can buy some cold cuts, eat in the room. 301 00:24:48,904 --> 00:24:50,905 Are you guys here for Bernie? 302 00:24:51,532 --> 00:24:53,575 We come back every year. 303 00:24:53,659 --> 00:24:54,993 For a tune-up. 304 00:24:57,204 --> 00:25:00,582 In case you're wondering, we are never coming back. 305 00:25:02,918 --> 00:25:07,297 I mean, if I had ever said so much as even one unkind word... 306 00:25:07,381 --> 00:25:09,757 Do you want the hard salami or do you want this kind here? 307 00:25:09,842 --> 00:25:11,968 - I don't care. - I mean, my brother, Ralph, 308 00:25:12,094 --> 00:25:14,762 if Angela had ever taken him to one of these things... 309 00:25:15,222 --> 00:25:18,016 You. I just hope you remember this next year 310 00:25:18,100 --> 00:25:20,351 when you want to tell me that I never help and I never... 311 00:25:20,436 --> 00:25:22,395 I'm getting the Limburger, you don't have to eat it. 312 00:25:22,479 --> 00:25:23,897 And I'll tell you one thing, 313 00:25:23,981 --> 00:25:26,858 we're going to go to Florida and see my mother next year for the full two weeks. 314 00:25:26,942 --> 00:25:29,569 You have forfeited your right to complain. 315 00:25:29,653 --> 00:25:31,529 Boy! I was thinking about you the whole... 316 00:25:31,614 --> 00:25:34,282 - Get away from the door! - I'm getting! 317 00:25:38,162 --> 00:25:39,287 What happened to you? 318 00:25:39,371 --> 00:25:41,331 I had to do that thing and the handle came off. 319 00:25:41,415 --> 00:25:44,834 Oh, me, too! And it broke, and that kid, he played bad. 320 00:26:22,957 --> 00:26:25,291 It was a course at the university. 321 00:26:25,668 --> 00:26:27,543 Beginning Accounting. 322 00:26:27,628 --> 00:26:30,338 And Arnold was the teaching assistant. 323 00:26:30,422 --> 00:26:32,215 What was your first impression of Kay, Arnold? 324 00:26:32,299 --> 00:26:35,343 She was pretty. Very pretty. 325 00:26:36,011 --> 00:26:39,472 - What else? - She probably shouldn't major in accounting. 326 00:26:42,851 --> 00:26:46,562 And Thanksgiving passed, no ring, 327 00:26:47,022 --> 00:26:50,483 and my dad said, "Well, you picked the wrong horse." 328 00:26:51,026 --> 00:26:53,027 But two days later, I found it. 329 00:26:53,112 --> 00:26:56,114 He had hidden it, the ring, in a cinnamon bun. 330 00:26:57,449 --> 00:26:59,158 I was so surprised. 331 00:26:59,243 --> 00:27:00,785 What was holding you up, Arnold? 332 00:27:00,869 --> 00:27:04,080 Well, it's not like buying a car. 333 00:27:09,670 --> 00:27:12,338 And that winter, Arnold threw his back out. 334 00:27:12,423 --> 00:27:14,424 I was helping Brad paint his room and... 335 00:27:14,508 --> 00:27:17,552 He said he would be more comfortable sleeping alone. 336 00:27:17,678 --> 00:27:18,970 That hurt like a son of a bitch. 337 00:27:19,054 --> 00:27:21,681 But then, his back got better. 338 00:27:21,765 --> 00:27:23,766 It still bothers me a little bit. But also I... 339 00:27:23,851 --> 00:27:26,978 - He snores. - I have that sleep apnea deal. 340 00:27:27,062 --> 00:27:29,355 So he just stayed in the guest room after that. 341 00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:30,690 Yeah. 342 00:27:31,066 --> 00:27:32,734 Did you ask him to come back? 343 00:27:33,861 --> 00:27:36,487 No. I didn't think he'd... 344 00:27:38,490 --> 00:27:39,741 No. 345 00:27:41,744 --> 00:27:44,245 So it's been a long time since you've slept in the same room. 346 00:27:46,165 --> 00:27:47,874 When was the last time you had sex? 347 00:27:50,085 --> 00:27:51,419 Yeah. 348 00:27:54,381 --> 00:27:57,759 - I have no idea. - Well, let's try to think about it. 349 00:28:10,272 --> 00:28:13,274 It was four years ago, almost five years ago. In September. 350 00:28:14,318 --> 00:28:16,778 When Brad moved out after college. 351 00:28:16,862 --> 00:28:22,867 September 22nd. I remember thinking, "He's moving out on the first day of fall." 352 00:28:22,951 --> 00:28:24,702 We get the picture, okay? 353 00:28:24,787 --> 00:28:26,913 This makes you uncomfortable talking about this, doesn't it? 354 00:28:26,997 --> 00:28:28,748 Well, sue me because I don't want to talk 355 00:28:28,832 --> 00:28:31,209 about having sex with my wife with a total stranger. 356 00:28:31,293 --> 00:28:32,960 You want to talk about it at all? 357 00:28:39,635 --> 00:28:42,136 What else do you remember about that day, Kay? 358 00:28:42,596 --> 00:28:44,472 How'd you make love? 359 00:28:44,598 --> 00:28:45,848 How? 360 00:28:45,974 --> 00:28:49,435 Was it the missionary position? Arnold on top? 361 00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:50,728 Oh, yeah. 362 00:28:50,813 --> 00:28:52,897 - Was it always missionary position? - Oh, please. 363 00:28:52,981 --> 00:28:54,899 Mostly, yes. 364 00:28:55,192 --> 00:28:58,319 Were there particular things that you enjoyed doing? 365 00:29:02,574 --> 00:29:04,492 Mostly it was the same. 366 00:29:05,077 --> 00:29:06,911 Was your sex life satisfying for you? 367 00:29:06,995 --> 00:29:09,705 - Well, it was fine. - Yeah. All right. 368 00:29:11,834 --> 00:29:13,084 Okay. 369 00:29:14,253 --> 00:29:16,462 I would like to assign you your first exercise. 370 00:29:17,339 --> 00:29:18,965 What... What kind of... 371 00:29:19,049 --> 00:29:22,343 Tonight, I would like you to spend a period of time with your arms around one another. 372 00:29:23,595 --> 00:29:26,514 Well, what's the... Why? 373 00:29:27,015 --> 00:29:31,144 Because I want you to remember what it's like to touch each other. 374 00:29:31,395 --> 00:29:33,563 Do you think you can do that? 375 00:29:35,149 --> 00:29:37,817 - Arnold? - Well, maybe that's what... 376 00:29:37,901 --> 00:29:40,027 I mean, forced intimacy... Is that really... 377 00:29:40,112 --> 00:29:42,864 - It's not forced intimacy. - That's what it sounds like. 378 00:29:42,948 --> 00:29:45,283 - What? We're supposed to be truthful here. - You are. 379 00:29:45,534 --> 00:29:48,953 Although... So what I'm saying is that I don't think this exercise, 380 00:29:49,037 --> 00:29:51,289 or whatever you wanna call it, sounds like something... 381 00:29:51,373 --> 00:29:52,874 - It's not forced. - If I do that 382 00:29:52,958 --> 00:29:54,917 just because somebody tells me to, what is the point? 383 00:29:55,002 --> 00:29:58,796 I don't think I like the idea of anybody telling me... 384 00:29:58,881 --> 00:30:03,301 I mean, the whole idea of this exercise thing is totally ridiculous to me. 385 00:30:03,385 --> 00:30:05,553 I'm not a trained monkey! 386 00:30:05,679 --> 00:30:07,263 - You're a bully! - What? 387 00:30:07,389 --> 00:30:11,017 Since you got here, all you've done is make me feel... 388 00:30:11,101 --> 00:30:13,895 - Kay? Kay. - ...terrible. 389 00:30:14,938 --> 00:30:16,189 I've had it. 390 00:30:17,566 --> 00:30:19,066 Kay! 391 00:30:28,035 --> 00:30:30,620 Kay. Kay. 392 00:30:32,122 --> 00:30:33,998 Kay, come on. This is infantile. 393 00:30:34,082 --> 00:30:35,833 I think you're infantile! 394 00:30:35,918 --> 00:30:37,543 Look... Where are you going? 395 00:30:38,170 --> 00:30:39,462 This is insane. 396 00:30:39,546 --> 00:30:41,130 No, it's not! 397 00:30:42,424 --> 00:30:44,008 Where are you going? 398 00:31:28,428 --> 00:31:30,846 You can come in. We don't bite. 399 00:31:35,477 --> 00:31:37,311 What can I get you? 400 00:31:41,900 --> 00:31:45,319 Would you recommend the red wine or the white? 401 00:31:45,821 --> 00:31:47,321 Do you like red wine? 402 00:31:47,698 --> 00:31:48,739 Yeah. 403 00:31:48,824 --> 00:31:50,449 Then I'd go with the white. 404 00:32:05,007 --> 00:32:10,177 And so, I was just hoping that, 405 00:32:10,679 --> 00:32:11,971 maybe if... 406 00:32:12,055 --> 00:32:14,223 Trying to get the old magic back? 407 00:32:14,308 --> 00:32:15,558 Yeah. 408 00:32:16,518 --> 00:32:17,685 Did you ever have it? 409 00:32:26,945 --> 00:32:30,323 You want the audio tour? It's $4.95. 410 00:32:34,578 --> 00:32:36,287 The thing is 411 00:32:37,706 --> 00:32:40,416 we really don't have sex, mostly. 412 00:32:41,543 --> 00:32:43,169 At all. 413 00:32:43,295 --> 00:32:44,587 That's it? 414 00:32:48,675 --> 00:32:51,218 All right. Who in here is not having sex? 415 00:32:52,554 --> 00:32:53,554 Not me. 416 00:32:54,473 --> 00:32:56,891 Mike, I know you're not getting any. 417 00:33:03,231 --> 00:33:05,149 - This one's on us. - Thank you. 418 00:33:26,505 --> 00:33:28,631 - I'm back! - I see that. 419 00:33:33,220 --> 00:33:35,304 - I went to the museum. - Did you? 420 00:33:35,389 --> 00:33:37,682 - Was it interesting? - Extremely. 421 00:33:38,183 --> 00:33:41,018 Of course, if you want to go, you'll have to do it on your own. 422 00:33:41,103 --> 00:33:43,145 I'm getting ready for bed. 423 00:33:53,824 --> 00:33:56,033 Where'd you go this afternoon? 424 00:33:57,452 --> 00:33:59,120 Just around. 425 00:33:59,621 --> 00:34:02,164 I thought you wanted to do that thing. 426 00:34:02,290 --> 00:34:05,501 But if you don't want to do it, I sure don't care. 427 00:34:06,628 --> 00:34:09,004 All right, I'll just go to bed. 428 00:34:09,506 --> 00:34:10,798 I want to do it. 429 00:34:19,141 --> 00:34:21,392 I guess we should do it there. 430 00:34:42,998 --> 00:34:47,334 Well, I guess I'll get in. 431 00:35:11,777 --> 00:35:13,778 Maybe this is enough. 432 00:35:30,837 --> 00:35:32,713 Yeah, probably enough. 433 00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:42,890 I was just getting the light. 434 00:36:57,090 --> 00:37:00,885 - And then we did the exercise... - Yeah, that was... 435 00:37:00,969 --> 00:37:03,053 - ...and we woke up. - Yeah. 436 00:37:04,598 --> 00:37:06,307 And we were in the same bed. 437 00:37:06,433 --> 00:37:09,643 - Yeah, it was... Yep. - It was comfortable. 438 00:37:13,356 --> 00:37:15,774 This is good. Really good. 439 00:37:16,985 --> 00:37:21,071 By taking some time to yourselves, you were able to relate better as a couple. 440 00:37:21,156 --> 00:37:22,573 And you both did it without even trying. 441 00:37:22,657 --> 00:37:25,367 - Well, she wanted to spend time apart. - Yeah. I was so mad. 442 00:37:25,452 --> 00:37:27,328 Mad as a wet cat. 443 00:37:28,663 --> 00:37:30,623 But, you know, it was nice, wasn't it? 444 00:37:30,707 --> 00:37:33,334 To do something on your own, you know. 445 00:37:33,752 --> 00:37:35,461 Great, you two. Really great. 446 00:37:35,545 --> 00:37:37,504 I'm thrilled with the progress that you've made. 447 00:37:37,589 --> 00:37:41,717 And I think it's going to make it that much easier to proceed to the next step. 448 00:37:41,843 --> 00:37:43,469 Next step. That's great. Let's get with it. 449 00:37:43,553 --> 00:37:46,388 I mean, we're doing so well, we might be able to get out of here early. 450 00:37:46,473 --> 00:37:48,098 Okay, next step. What is it? 451 00:37:48,183 --> 00:37:50,893 Write a poem? Hold hands in public? Sing a serenade? 452 00:37:51,186 --> 00:37:52,645 Sex. 453 00:37:55,565 --> 00:37:58,984 We're going to talk extensively about your sexual history. 454 00:37:59,069 --> 00:38:02,154 When it started. What it included. What it didn't include. 455 00:38:02,948 --> 00:38:06,116 If you had orgasms, vaginally or otherwise. 456 00:38:06,868 --> 00:38:10,496 If you had issues around sexuality or performance. 457 00:38:11,665 --> 00:38:14,458 Whether you talked about sex or during it. 458 00:38:14,542 --> 00:38:15,793 What your fantasies are. 459 00:38:16,044 --> 00:38:17,670 If you ever acted on fantasies. 460 00:38:17,754 --> 00:38:21,799 Brought toys or sex games into the bedroom. Brought sex out of the bedroom. 461 00:38:21,883 --> 00:38:25,135 And once we've explored all of those things, I will give you your first sexual, 462 00:38:25,220 --> 00:38:27,471 not sex, but sexual, exercise. 463 00:38:30,684 --> 00:38:32,393 All right? 464 00:38:32,602 --> 00:38:34,353 Let's get started. 465 00:38:35,438 --> 00:38:37,064 Arnold, would you like to begin? 466 00:38:38,900 --> 00:38:40,651 Do you... 467 00:38:41,194 --> 00:38:44,196 I think we ought to stop this right now before... 468 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,865 We should just get our things and go. 469 00:38:52,205 --> 00:38:54,581 I'll go first. I will. 470 00:38:54,749 --> 00:38:56,125 Fine. 471 00:38:56,501 --> 00:38:57,876 Terrific. 472 00:38:57,961 --> 00:38:59,253 All right. 473 00:38:59,337 --> 00:39:03,632 Kay, let's talk about what you liked sexually. 474 00:39:14,436 --> 00:39:16,270 Was intercourse pleasurable for you? 475 00:39:16,938 --> 00:39:18,605 Sometimes. 476 00:39:20,233 --> 00:39:22,067 Did you have orgasms? 477 00:39:24,821 --> 00:39:26,280 Sometimes. 478 00:39:26,781 --> 00:39:28,782 - Do you masturbate? - No. 479 00:39:29,034 --> 00:39:30,367 Not anymore. 480 00:39:30,785 --> 00:39:32,244 Why not? 481 00:39:32,328 --> 00:39:34,288 Because at a certain point, I just... 482 00:39:35,582 --> 00:39:40,419 I think I didn't want to think about sex or about Arnold, even. 483 00:39:41,212 --> 00:39:45,966 It just made me sad thinking about what I missed and... 484 00:39:50,180 --> 00:39:52,431 What about your fantasy life? 485 00:39:54,184 --> 00:39:55,601 Do you have fantasies? 486 00:39:57,937 --> 00:39:59,188 What? 487 00:40:01,316 --> 00:40:05,360 My fantasy is that, you know, we'll renew our vows. 488 00:40:07,322 --> 00:40:11,533 Just a little small ceremony, on a beach, maybe. 489 00:40:11,618 --> 00:40:12,868 Right. 490 00:40:12,994 --> 00:40:14,578 Maybe with the kids there. 491 00:40:15,914 --> 00:40:20,000 Right. And do you have sexual fantasies? 492 00:40:23,963 --> 00:40:25,672 Imagine scenarios? 493 00:40:26,925 --> 00:40:31,261 Having sex on a mountain top or dressed all in leather? 494 00:40:36,184 --> 00:40:37,684 That's funny. 495 00:40:38,019 --> 00:40:39,394 So, no. 496 00:40:39,604 --> 00:40:43,190 I mainly think about Arnold and things that we've done. 497 00:40:47,821 --> 00:40:52,574 You never have fantasies about things that you haven't done ever? 498 00:40:53,409 --> 00:40:55,009 No. 499 00:41:07,841 --> 00:41:09,216 Okay. Okay. 500 00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:13,303 All right. Arnold, let's talk about you. 501 00:41:14,973 --> 00:41:17,015 What do you enjoy sexually? 502 00:41:17,100 --> 00:41:19,977 - Sex. - I'm going to ask you to get more specific. 503 00:41:20,061 --> 00:41:21,436 Okay, fine. 504 00:41:21,521 --> 00:41:23,981 So you enjoy the actual sexual act? Intercourse? 505 00:41:24,065 --> 00:41:25,190 Yeah. 506 00:41:25,650 --> 00:41:27,484 Missionary style. 507 00:41:29,571 --> 00:41:32,573 Would you prefer that to, say, oral sex? 508 00:41:34,993 --> 00:41:36,577 I guess so. 509 00:41:37,370 --> 00:41:40,080 Was oral sex an option? Is that something that you would do regularly? 510 00:41:40,165 --> 00:41:43,083 No, I, I, I, I don't... No. 511 00:41:43,168 --> 00:41:45,127 I was not very... I'm... 512 00:41:46,212 --> 00:41:47,921 I was not comfortable with that. 513 00:41:49,382 --> 00:41:50,924 Giving or receiving? 514 00:41:56,347 --> 00:41:58,015 I don't know. Both, I guess. 515 00:41:58,308 --> 00:42:01,685 Okay. So, now you, Arnold, would have been open to that. 516 00:42:01,769 --> 00:42:05,355 What does it matter? She just said it was not an option. 517 00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:06,773 What about problems in the bedroom? 518 00:42:07,275 --> 00:42:10,402 Have you ever experienced erectile dysfunction? 519 00:42:11,321 --> 00:42:12,362 No. 520 00:42:12,447 --> 00:42:14,948 - Use medications like Viagra? - No. 521 00:42:15,450 --> 00:42:17,451 As we age, sometimes, it becomes... 522 00:42:17,911 --> 00:42:19,244 It works. 523 00:42:21,289 --> 00:42:23,665 What would you say was working in your sex life 524 00:42:23,750 --> 00:42:25,375 when you were sexual together? 525 00:42:25,460 --> 00:42:27,628 - For instance, would you climax? - Yeah. 526 00:42:28,254 --> 00:42:31,131 Were there things that you wanted to do, but didn't? 527 00:42:32,175 --> 00:42:33,967 You're kidding, right? 528 00:42:34,636 --> 00:42:36,011 Well? 529 00:42:36,137 --> 00:42:37,346 I mean, who says no to that? 530 00:42:37,764 --> 00:42:39,389 Right. Then go ahead. 531 00:42:39,474 --> 00:42:40,974 What, you want a whole list? 532 00:42:41,142 --> 00:42:42,351 Sure. 533 00:42:51,486 --> 00:42:54,279 I'm not really coming up with anything. 534 00:42:55,823 --> 00:42:58,200 There are no wrong answers here. 535 00:43:02,914 --> 00:43:04,289 Well... 536 00:43:05,416 --> 00:43:09,127 If you could have anything you wanted in your sex life with Kay, what would that be? 537 00:43:11,756 --> 00:43:16,218 Did you have fantasies that you didn't feel comfortable telling her about? 538 00:43:16,302 --> 00:43:17,552 Of course. 539 00:43:21,015 --> 00:43:25,143 Well, I guess I used to think about Kay giving me a... 540 00:43:31,067 --> 00:43:33,402 Giving me oral... 541 00:43:34,862 --> 00:43:36,321 You know... 542 00:43:37,699 --> 00:43:40,200 At work. Under the desk. 543 00:43:41,869 --> 00:43:43,328 At tax time. 544 00:43:44,872 --> 00:43:46,331 So, public places. 545 00:43:46,416 --> 00:43:48,083 No, not just public places. 546 00:43:48,167 --> 00:43:50,711 No? Okay. Good, good. Very good. 547 00:43:54,757 --> 00:43:55,966 What else? 548 00:43:58,636 --> 00:43:59,845 A threesome. 549 00:44:02,140 --> 00:44:03,932 - With? - The neighbor. 550 00:44:04,225 --> 00:44:05,475 Helen? 551 00:44:06,269 --> 00:44:07,477 No, Carol. 552 00:44:08,062 --> 00:44:09,313 Carol? 553 00:44:10,732 --> 00:44:12,524 Carol with the corgis? 554 00:44:18,656 --> 00:44:20,949 Very good, Arnold. Both of you. 555 00:44:22,827 --> 00:44:25,787 I am going to give you your next exercise. 556 00:44:28,291 --> 00:44:31,168 You think we ought to be sitting for this? 557 00:44:31,544 --> 00:44:32,753 Well, 558 00:44:35,423 --> 00:44:37,299 maybe lying down. 559 00:44:46,267 --> 00:44:48,101 You want to go first? 560 00:44:48,644 --> 00:44:50,437 Do you want me to? 561 00:44:51,105 --> 00:44:52,689 Six of one, half dozen of the other. 562 00:45:09,749 --> 00:45:11,750 - Is that all right? - Fine. 563 00:45:18,633 --> 00:45:20,050 Does it feel good? 564 00:45:20,134 --> 00:45:22,677 It feels like you're petting a dog. 565 00:45:41,989 --> 00:45:44,282 - That tickles. Don't... - Sorry. Okay. 566 00:45:44,367 --> 00:45:46,493 - Don't go there. - I'm sorry. 567 00:45:54,836 --> 00:45:57,254 I really don't see the point of... 568 00:45:58,381 --> 00:46:00,382 I mean, this Dr. Feld, 569 00:46:02,176 --> 00:46:06,346 you think he has other legitimate doctors here who agree with him, 570 00:46:07,682 --> 00:46:11,768 or think he could be just some sort of a renegade? 571 00:46:16,190 --> 00:46:20,527 You, I mean, well, us, 572 00:46:21,195 --> 00:46:25,782 your average person, you could be being treated by someone who's psychotic. 573 00:46:27,952 --> 00:46:34,332 Or maybe someone who's just a very average, 574 00:46:36,586 --> 00:46:39,463 or even below-average practitioner. 575 00:46:55,646 --> 00:46:57,230 I think we better stop. 576 00:46:57,356 --> 00:46:58,815 What? 577 00:47:01,110 --> 00:47:03,653 - You sure? - Yeah, I think I just... 578 00:47:07,074 --> 00:47:08,742 I'm going to bed. 579 00:48:24,485 --> 00:48:28,863 So, last night you had the touching exercise. 580 00:48:30,908 --> 00:48:32,200 How did that go? 581 00:48:35,830 --> 00:48:37,414 How was that for you? 582 00:48:41,961 --> 00:48:44,713 All right, let's talk about it. Arnold. 583 00:48:45,881 --> 00:48:48,300 - How was it having Kay touch you? - It was fine, I guess. 584 00:48:48,426 --> 00:48:50,010 Did it feel good? 585 00:48:50,469 --> 00:48:52,304 Did you get aroused? 586 00:48:53,514 --> 00:48:56,391 - How did that make you feel? - Aroused. 587 00:48:56,684 --> 00:48:58,643 What about you, Kay? How did that make you feel? 588 00:48:59,020 --> 00:49:01,771 - I got aroused, too. - Did you know that, Arnold? 589 00:49:01,856 --> 00:49:05,442 How am I supposed to know what she's thinking or feeling? 590 00:49:07,278 --> 00:49:09,696 How was it for you, Kay, when Arnold touched you? 591 00:49:09,780 --> 00:49:11,865 We didn't get to that part. 592 00:49:11,949 --> 00:49:15,869 - Why not? Why? - Because we just stopped. 593 00:49:16,537 --> 00:49:18,830 We did the exercise. It was done. We did it. 594 00:49:18,914 --> 00:49:22,542 The exercise was to spend a period of time touching each other sensually. 595 00:49:22,627 --> 00:49:25,462 It sounds like Kay touched you and then you stopped. 596 00:49:25,546 --> 00:49:27,380 Did you talk about it? 597 00:49:28,466 --> 00:49:29,674 Whose idea was it to stop? 598 00:49:29,759 --> 00:49:32,886 It was mine, okay. I just wanted to stop. I wanted... 599 00:49:32,970 --> 00:49:34,971 - All right. Okay. - I didn't want to do it anymore. 600 00:49:35,056 --> 00:49:37,641 All right. Well, let's go deeper, then. 601 00:49:37,725 --> 00:49:38,808 Let's not go deeper. 602 00:49:38,893 --> 00:49:40,977 It's not enough to just be here. You have to try. 603 00:49:41,062 --> 00:49:44,939 I'm not trying? I flew 1,500 miles up here for this and I'm not trying? 604 00:49:45,024 --> 00:49:47,025 All right. Well, then, let's just try to figure this out. 605 00:49:47,109 --> 00:49:49,819 - Why did you want Kay to stop? - I wanted her to stop because... 606 00:49:51,489 --> 00:49:54,407 - Were you afraid? - No! What do I have to be afraid of? 607 00:49:54,533 --> 00:49:56,993 - Fear... Hey, re-engaging can be... - I'm not afraid of my own wife. 608 00:49:57,078 --> 00:49:59,996 Fine. Well, that's okay. It's okay. It's normal to feel fear. 609 00:50:00,081 --> 00:50:01,164 I did not feel fear! 610 00:50:01,248 --> 00:50:03,083 Then why did you stop Kay from touching you? 611 00:50:03,167 --> 00:50:05,627 Let me tell you something. I am done with this for today. 612 00:50:05,711 --> 00:50:08,588 I am done. I'll see you back at the room. 613 00:51:09,817 --> 00:51:10,984 Kay? 614 00:51:14,989 --> 00:51:16,781 What are you doing? 615 00:51:16,866 --> 00:51:19,659 Dr. Feld said he'd give us a refund. 616 00:51:20,119 --> 00:51:21,661 What percent? 617 00:51:23,456 --> 00:51:24,414 What? 618 00:51:24,498 --> 00:51:27,917 Did he say he'd give us back the whole payment, or... 619 00:51:29,003 --> 00:51:30,670 - Half. - Half. 620 00:51:33,716 --> 00:51:35,717 I don't know what you thought was going to happen here. 621 00:51:35,801 --> 00:51:37,469 What did you... 622 00:51:37,970 --> 00:51:42,140 I mean, there's no magic pill or wand or... He's just a guy with an office. 623 00:51:43,267 --> 00:51:45,393 It's ridiculous. You come up here, you spend one week 624 00:51:45,478 --> 00:51:48,980 and you're supposed to, what, have a new marriage? 625 00:51:49,440 --> 00:51:52,233 It's a setup. You're set up for failure. 626 00:51:53,235 --> 00:51:56,029 Then you feel bad about failing. You see that, right? 627 00:51:57,406 --> 00:51:58,948 You can't win. 628 00:52:04,205 --> 00:52:05,705 Why the hell did you bring us here? 629 00:52:08,667 --> 00:52:11,586 You know how you think you're always headed towards something? 630 00:52:11,670 --> 00:52:15,089 You think, "When we get married," or, "When we have kids," 631 00:52:15,174 --> 00:52:18,551 or, "When the kids go and it's just us again..." 632 00:52:21,889 --> 00:52:25,350 You know, there's always something to look forward to. 633 00:52:26,560 --> 00:52:30,772 And one day, I realized that we are not going towards anything anymore. 634 00:52:30,898 --> 00:52:35,610 And I guess I was just not willing to let go of things getting better anymore. 635 00:52:37,029 --> 00:52:38,404 Not yet. 636 00:52:38,572 --> 00:52:41,699 Maybe you just don't get a choice, 637 00:52:42,952 --> 00:52:44,202 you know? 638 00:52:44,286 --> 00:52:48,581 Maybe you just don't get a choice. Don't forget your razor in the bathroom. 639 00:52:52,461 --> 00:52:53,878 You're back. 640 00:52:54,463 --> 00:52:56,256 - Let's talk about that. - Let's not. 641 00:52:56,340 --> 00:52:58,925 Let's just... I'm back, all right? That ought to be enough. 642 00:52:59,009 --> 00:53:00,510 It isn't, actually. 643 00:53:00,594 --> 00:53:02,470 What do you want from me, blood? 644 00:53:02,596 --> 00:53:06,516 You have a lot of anger, Arnold. What do you think you're so angry about? 645 00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:09,018 I'm angry about everything. I'm angry about being here. 646 00:53:09,103 --> 00:53:11,312 Why? What are you afraid will happen? 647 00:53:11,397 --> 00:53:13,898 You want to know what? Fine. 648 00:53:14,441 --> 00:53:15,775 What I'm afraid will happen here 649 00:53:15,860 --> 00:53:18,319 is what probably happens in every goddamn therapist's office 650 00:53:18,445 --> 00:53:20,363 every time any poor couple goes in there. 651 00:53:20,447 --> 00:53:22,907 You say whatever thing, because somebody like you 652 00:53:22,992 --> 00:53:25,493 is dragging it out of them and then you can't take it back. 653 00:53:25,578 --> 00:53:28,830 There are things in this life that you don't say for a reason. 654 00:53:28,914 --> 00:53:30,331 Like what? What would you say? 655 00:53:34,545 --> 00:53:35,753 Tell me. 656 00:53:37,506 --> 00:53:39,799 I want to know. I want to know. 657 00:53:40,634 --> 00:53:43,219 It's worse not knowing when there are things that you're holding back 658 00:53:43,304 --> 00:53:45,388 you won't say because you think I'm too fragile or whatever. 659 00:53:45,472 --> 00:53:49,058 - No, it's not that. It's... - Something I can't hear. 660 00:53:49,143 --> 00:53:51,060 All right, fine! All right. 661 00:53:53,314 --> 00:53:54,814 - She has a way... - Say it to Kay. 662 00:53:55,482 --> 00:53:59,527 You have a way of saying that something's up to me 663 00:53:59,612 --> 00:54:02,864 and then when I make a decision and it's something you don't like, 664 00:54:02,948 --> 00:54:06,075 you don't actually say anything, but you sure do get your point across. 665 00:54:06,160 --> 00:54:09,287 Well, can I just say, I don't like... Is it my turn? 666 00:54:10,664 --> 00:54:16,336 I don't like the way that we always do something for Christmas, or an anniversary, 667 00:54:16,420 --> 00:54:20,298 that's a joint gift for the house, like a water heater. 668 00:54:20,382 --> 00:54:24,135 - You needed that water heater. - Yes, but you did, too. You shower. 669 00:54:24,303 --> 00:54:26,554 Why is that a special gift for me? 670 00:54:28,182 --> 00:54:31,935 And I hate watching golf. I do. I think it's boring. 671 00:54:32,311 --> 00:54:35,146 And the shows where they talk about golf, even worse. 672 00:54:35,230 --> 00:54:37,732 It's like being married to ESPN. 673 00:54:39,026 --> 00:54:41,778 And when you eat ranch chips, your breath smells. 674 00:54:41,862 --> 00:54:43,613 I like ranch chips. 675 00:54:43,864 --> 00:54:48,284 And I hate it when you rub up against me, like you just expect me to do it. 676 00:54:48,369 --> 00:54:49,619 "Come on, let's go." 677 00:54:49,703 --> 00:54:52,121 Hell, it got to the point I was afraid to make any kind of move. 678 00:54:52,206 --> 00:54:54,123 If I even so much as tried to kiss you... 679 00:54:54,208 --> 00:54:56,334 Well, you never kiss me. 680 00:54:56,877 --> 00:54:59,754 You don't want to kiss me, you just want "it." 681 00:54:59,838 --> 00:55:01,089 Not me. 682 00:55:02,341 --> 00:55:05,718 You know, he always has his eyes squeezed tight shut. 683 00:55:10,224 --> 00:55:12,475 It's not me. You just want "it." 684 00:55:12,559 --> 00:55:16,312 Hell, yes, I want "it." You can bet your life I want "it." 685 00:55:16,397 --> 00:55:19,524 So screw me for wanting to have sex with my wife! 686 00:55:20,150 --> 00:55:23,069 And, you know, it's not pleasant 687 00:55:24,238 --> 00:55:26,364 to do that with somebody who doesn't want to do it. 688 00:55:28,534 --> 00:55:30,410 But you never saw me... 689 00:55:32,079 --> 00:55:33,413 What? 690 00:55:34,248 --> 00:55:35,415 Go on, Arnold. 691 00:55:35,499 --> 00:55:37,709 I didn't complain because Kay didn't want sex. 692 00:55:38,085 --> 00:55:41,004 Love. That's what I wanted. Not just sex. 693 00:55:42,256 --> 00:55:43,881 I wanted you. 694 00:55:44,842 --> 00:55:47,844 Well, what about all those years I wanted you? 695 00:55:48,137 --> 00:55:50,555 All those goddamn years. 696 00:55:54,226 --> 00:55:56,060 And I didn't cheat. 697 00:55:56,603 --> 00:55:58,312 I didn't go to hookers. 698 00:55:58,439 --> 00:56:00,690 I watched a little porn, but who doesn't? 699 00:56:00,941 --> 00:56:03,568 I was good. I did the right thing. 700 00:56:04,069 --> 00:56:06,154 Now you're bringing me here for... 701 00:56:10,743 --> 00:56:13,911 You're the one who stopped, not me. 702 00:56:15,873 --> 00:56:19,208 Yeah, for a while I stopped, yes, but you stopped, too. 703 00:56:19,626 --> 00:56:22,128 You did. You stopped. 704 00:56:22,838 --> 00:56:25,548 Well, you don't just turn it on and off, you know? 705 00:56:26,633 --> 00:56:29,135 Maybe when it's off, it's just off. 706 00:56:34,975 --> 00:56:36,017 Off. 707 00:56:44,985 --> 00:56:46,986 I want you to do something for me. 708 00:56:48,238 --> 00:56:50,531 I want you to tell me about the best sex you ever had. 709 00:56:51,408 --> 00:56:54,994 The time that you can remember that was the best. Either of you. 710 00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:58,498 Even if it wasn't very good. Even if it was terrible. 711 00:56:59,083 --> 00:57:00,541 Best time that you remember. 712 00:57:04,630 --> 00:57:05,880 Well... 713 00:57:09,551 --> 00:57:12,011 I remember one time. 714 00:57:13,847 --> 00:57:15,014 Kay was pregnant. 715 00:57:15,432 --> 00:57:17,767 - Where were you? - In the kitchen. 716 00:57:19,603 --> 00:57:21,104 She was making soup. 717 00:57:21,188 --> 00:57:25,566 And I came in there and she kept saying she had to stir her soup. 718 00:57:27,194 --> 00:57:30,196 And pretty soon, she forgot about that soup. 719 00:57:31,031 --> 00:57:32,490 What do you remember, Kay? 720 00:57:35,619 --> 00:57:39,330 Well, we were on the floor, and... 721 00:57:44,086 --> 00:57:45,837 And it was slow. 722 00:57:53,512 --> 00:57:57,557 He... He put some dish towels behind my head 723 00:57:57,641 --> 00:57:59,142 so my head wouldn't bang on... 724 00:57:59,226 --> 00:58:02,478 Wouldn't bump up against the bottom of the cabinet. 725 00:58:03,313 --> 00:58:04,814 That was... 726 00:58:10,654 --> 00:58:13,364 Arnold, what else do you remember about that? 727 00:58:14,575 --> 00:58:20,913 Just wanting her. 728 00:58:23,834 --> 00:58:26,085 Standing there in the kitchen. 729 00:58:27,838 --> 00:58:29,088 Happy. 730 00:58:30,465 --> 00:58:32,008 Beautiful. 731 00:58:33,635 --> 00:58:38,389 She had a little apron which was getting to be too little because her 732 00:58:40,434 --> 00:58:42,518 belly was getting so big. 733 00:58:43,437 --> 00:58:45,605 You were very attracted to her then. 734 00:58:46,481 --> 00:58:48,524 Yeah, I was, and... 735 00:58:48,609 --> 00:58:50,234 Are you still? 736 00:58:53,197 --> 00:58:55,781 I don't... I don't know. 737 00:58:55,866 --> 00:58:58,618 It's been a long time since we've... 738 00:58:58,702 --> 00:59:01,871 - I don't look like I did then. - No, it's not that. 739 00:59:01,955 --> 00:59:03,998 No. I never could lose all the weight. 740 00:59:04,082 --> 00:59:08,544 You look fine. I just don't think of it in that way anymore. 741 00:59:08,837 --> 00:59:10,254 About her that way anymore. 742 00:59:10,422 --> 00:59:12,715 Well, of course, I... 743 00:59:12,799 --> 00:59:15,176 No, it's not "of course." 744 00:59:15,594 --> 00:59:19,931 Sometimes when a connection is lost, we forget how to want one another. 745 00:59:22,643 --> 00:59:24,143 Do you still want Kay? 746 00:59:25,646 --> 00:59:27,063 Well, yes! 747 00:59:27,147 --> 00:59:28,522 Do you still fantasize about her? 748 00:59:30,567 --> 00:59:32,235 You mean, now? 749 00:59:35,906 --> 00:59:37,198 These days. 750 00:59:38,325 --> 00:59:39,450 I don't know. 751 00:59:39,826 --> 00:59:41,452 I don't... I... 752 00:59:44,122 --> 00:59:45,498 I had one. 753 00:59:48,335 --> 00:59:49,710 I had a fantasy. 754 00:59:54,508 --> 00:59:56,008 Was it... 755 00:59:56,635 --> 00:59:59,679 - It was... - It was... It was... 756 01:00:02,975 --> 01:00:06,352 Like you said. It was just us, 757 01:00:06,436 --> 01:00:10,773 and it was really different. 758 01:00:10,857 --> 01:00:13,317 Something we've never done before. 759 01:00:14,820 --> 01:00:16,320 Something new. 760 01:00:28,292 --> 01:00:31,335 I'm going to ask you to take a leap of faith and try something. 761 01:00:31,878 --> 01:00:36,549 It is most likely way out of your comfort zone. 762 01:00:37,884 --> 01:00:40,344 Try to think of it in terms of... 763 01:00:41,471 --> 01:00:44,473 Remember the metaphor of a nose breaking? 764 01:00:44,558 --> 01:00:46,058 It's the nose. 765 01:00:48,228 --> 01:00:51,272 Well, you can't break a nose slowly, can you? 766 01:00:58,989 --> 01:01:02,783 Of course there was a problem with the popcorn popper. 767 01:01:04,745 --> 01:01:05,953 Thank you. 768 01:01:06,038 --> 01:01:08,122 I don't see why you can't tell me what you're planning on. 769 01:01:08,206 --> 01:01:10,249 Because he said it was fine this way. 770 01:01:10,334 --> 01:01:13,002 It just makes me uncomfortable not to know what I'm going to be asked to do. 771 01:01:13,086 --> 01:01:15,212 When it's your turn, you can do what you want. 772 01:01:15,297 --> 01:01:19,967 What if we don't do the exercise again? We're moving at a rapid clip here. Okay. 773 01:01:20,052 --> 01:01:21,510 It's your ball game. 774 01:01:23,263 --> 01:01:25,056 I'll tell you one thing. 775 01:01:25,140 --> 01:01:29,060 You would never get me into a French movie if we were at home. 776 01:01:46,495 --> 01:01:48,245 This is pretty good. 777 01:02:05,514 --> 01:02:06,931 Sorry. 778 01:02:45,345 --> 01:02:47,930 I'm sorry, I can't see! 779 01:02:50,475 --> 01:02:52,685 You just need to take it easy. Watch it with the teeth! 780 01:02:52,769 --> 01:02:56,147 - I'm sorry. Sorry, I didn't mean... - It's all right. 781 01:02:56,523 --> 01:02:58,357 I can't see. 782 01:02:59,276 --> 01:03:01,110 Oh, God. 783 01:03:14,749 --> 01:03:16,876 Hey, you can hurt someone! 784 01:03:16,960 --> 01:03:19,378 I'm so sorry! I can't do this. 785 01:03:19,463 --> 01:03:21,172 Kay. Kay. Kay. 786 01:03:22,048 --> 01:03:24,508 - Kay, it's okay. - It's not okay! 787 01:03:25,010 --> 01:03:26,552 It's not okay. 788 01:03:30,557 --> 01:03:32,057 Kay, listen. 789 01:03:32,142 --> 01:03:35,019 - Kay, this is not a big deal. - I should... 790 01:03:35,479 --> 01:03:36,854 I should... 791 01:03:36,938 --> 01:03:38,814 I'm not good at anything. 792 01:03:38,899 --> 01:03:42,485 - There's not anything to be good at! - I don't know how to be good at anything. 793 01:03:42,611 --> 01:03:44,612 - Listen, wait. - I'm not sexy! 794 01:03:44,696 --> 01:03:46,906 Wait. Yes, you are very... 795 01:03:47,282 --> 01:03:49,283 - What? - What? Yes, what? 796 01:03:49,409 --> 01:03:51,619 Maybe you just don't have... 797 01:03:51,703 --> 01:03:55,706 Maybe there's just certain things you're not experienced at. 798 01:03:57,751 --> 01:03:58,751 Kay! 799 01:04:05,717 --> 01:04:07,927 I must have looked so stupid! 800 01:04:08,803 --> 01:04:10,679 But how did you feel? 801 01:04:11,431 --> 01:04:12,932 Like a fake. 802 01:04:13,850 --> 01:04:17,853 I'm just not... I'm... I just can't do that. 803 01:04:18,063 --> 01:04:19,855 Well, the whole situation was just dangerous, 804 01:04:19,940 --> 01:04:22,775 with those cup holders, and seat backs going forth, 805 01:04:22,859 --> 01:04:25,194 and back and forth and the cramped space, 806 01:04:25,278 --> 01:04:28,030 the concrete floor, those people everywhere. 807 01:04:28,240 --> 01:04:30,199 That's not me. 808 01:04:30,283 --> 01:04:35,287 I just can't be a person who commits an illegal act in a movie theater. 809 01:04:36,498 --> 01:04:39,959 It's just... Is that really who I have to be? 810 01:04:40,961 --> 01:04:42,211 It's not about being a sex object. 811 01:04:42,295 --> 01:04:45,756 It's about pleasing the man you love. And letting him please you. 812 01:04:45,840 --> 01:04:47,758 Well, I don't even know how to do that! 813 01:04:47,842 --> 01:04:50,261 Ultimately, I think you have to ask yourself, 814 01:04:50,345 --> 01:04:53,305 "Is this person worth more to me than my pride?" 815 01:04:53,682 --> 01:04:55,516 Oh, yeah. I mean... 816 01:04:56,434 --> 01:04:57,476 Yes. 817 01:04:57,811 --> 01:05:00,813 Kay's putting it all on the line here. What are you putting on the line? 818 01:05:00,981 --> 01:05:02,439 Everything. 819 01:05:03,984 --> 01:05:05,734 He is everything. 820 01:05:09,155 --> 01:05:10,864 But I'm really lonely. 821 01:05:12,909 --> 01:05:14,535 And I think 822 01:05:16,663 --> 01:05:20,082 to be with somebody and not really with him is... 823 01:05:25,505 --> 01:05:28,674 I think I might be less lonely if I were alone. 824 01:05:29,551 --> 01:05:31,343 - Do you want to be alone? - No! 825 01:05:32,512 --> 01:05:34,013 I don't know. 826 01:05:37,851 --> 01:05:42,730 You wouldn't think it would be so hard to just touch somebody that you love. 827 01:05:46,401 --> 01:05:48,527 But it is. It's really hard. 828 01:05:56,036 --> 01:05:57,911 Okay. You know what? 829 01:05:58,955 --> 01:06:02,625 I'm going to give you something 830 01:06:04,169 --> 01:06:07,338 that may help with your anxiety. 831 01:06:10,258 --> 01:06:12,468 You can pick this up in town. 832 01:06:34,783 --> 01:06:36,617 - Hey. - Hi. Hello. 833 01:06:40,372 --> 01:06:44,833 We got a discount on trade paperbacks in the front, if you're interested. 834 01:06:45,085 --> 01:06:47,961 - Are you looking for anything special? - Not really. 835 01:06:48,046 --> 01:06:50,172 All right, just let me know. 836 01:06:55,929 --> 01:06:57,971 Do you have a title, miss? 837 01:06:59,099 --> 01:07:01,308 No, not... I'm just... 838 01:07:01,685 --> 01:07:03,977 I was gonna say if you got a title, I can look it up. 839 01:07:04,062 --> 01:07:08,399 We're short on shelf space up here, so we have a lot of stuff in the back. 840 01:07:08,483 --> 01:07:11,360 Actually, I'm looking for. 841 01:07:11,444 --> 01:07:15,322 Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man. 842 01:07:17,701 --> 01:07:20,744 Oh, yeah. Dr. Feld has us keep those in stock. 843 01:07:22,872 --> 01:07:24,123 Okay. 844 01:07:24,874 --> 01:07:26,500 Can I give you cash? 845 01:07:26,584 --> 01:07:27,751 Yeah, that works. 846 01:07:28,128 --> 01:07:30,254 Couples come to me for two reasons. 847 01:07:30,338 --> 01:07:33,132 To help them save their marriage, or... 848 01:07:33,425 --> 01:07:34,717 Or what? 849 01:07:35,301 --> 01:07:36,677 Or to help them end it. 850 01:07:39,347 --> 01:07:41,223 When one person is this unhappy, 851 01:07:41,307 --> 01:07:45,018 the marriage has to restore some sort of equilibrium, or... 852 01:07:45,979 --> 01:07:48,647 Or what? Are you trying to tell me my marriage is over? 853 01:07:48,732 --> 01:07:50,649 Because I'm not gonna pay you for one more session 854 01:07:50,734 --> 01:07:52,609 just because you threaten me, you smug little prick! 855 01:07:54,863 --> 01:07:58,031 Arnold, your wife is very unhappy. 856 01:07:59,075 --> 01:08:01,660 And I'm not saying that she'll ever leave. 857 01:08:02,120 --> 01:08:05,998 I just don't want you to have anything to regret should she... 858 01:08:09,085 --> 01:08:11,837 I'm simply saying the moment is here 859 01:08:11,921 --> 01:08:15,507 and you have to ask yourself, "Have I done all I could?" 860 01:08:16,342 --> 01:08:17,885 Have you, Arnold? 861 01:08:18,887 --> 01:08:21,346 Is this the best that you can do? 862 01:08:50,668 --> 01:08:52,336 I'm sorry, there's... 863 01:08:52,420 --> 01:08:56,632 Listen, I can... Maybe a little tip would help, you know. 864 01:08:57,550 --> 01:09:00,177 - You want to buy a table? - I need it. 865 01:09:00,303 --> 01:09:02,471 So whatever... 866 01:09:02,555 --> 01:09:03,847 Look, I need this. 867 01:09:03,932 --> 01:09:09,937 Look, I'm really sorry about whatever is going on in your marriage, 868 01:09:10,021 --> 01:09:12,564 but I don't think the dinner was going to save it. 869 01:09:12,649 --> 01:09:14,149 I need a table. 870 01:09:14,234 --> 01:09:18,529 I need it, and I'm not going to leave from right here until I get it. 871 01:09:50,019 --> 01:09:51,854 We're going to need more space here, 872 01:09:51,938 --> 01:09:54,106 so I want you to push it further against the wall. All right? 873 01:09:55,608 --> 01:09:57,234 All right. 874 01:10:17,881 --> 01:10:19,590 Hello. Captain Jack's. 875 01:10:22,051 --> 01:10:26,263 I'm sorry to hear that, Mr. Fletcher. What time was that for? 876 01:10:27,599 --> 01:10:29,141 All right. 877 01:10:29,225 --> 01:10:33,478 Well, thanks for calling. I do hope you come and visit us sometime. 878 01:10:33,563 --> 01:10:35,355 Thank you very much. Bye. 879 01:10:36,983 --> 01:10:38,650 All right. 880 01:10:39,527 --> 01:10:41,111 That goes away. 881 01:10:47,118 --> 01:10:48,368 Well? 882 01:10:48,453 --> 01:10:51,413 Got a waiting list. Got to call them. 883 01:10:51,497 --> 01:10:55,667 You got a waiting list? You will give me that table, so help me God! 884 01:11:10,183 --> 01:11:11,516 Are you ready? 885 01:11:12,352 --> 01:11:14,186 I'm almost ready. 886 01:11:51,265 --> 01:11:53,850 You really ready? 'Cause I don't want to be late. 887 01:11:55,603 --> 01:11:57,646 Yes, I'm really ready. 888 01:11:57,730 --> 01:11:59,564 - Very pretty. - Thank you. 889 01:12:00,233 --> 01:12:02,150 - You look really nice, too. - Yeah, I do. 890 01:12:02,235 --> 01:12:03,735 You handsome devil. 891 01:12:07,323 --> 01:12:11,410 Oh, Arnold. It's gorgeous! 892 01:12:24,257 --> 01:12:25,799 I just can't get over it! 893 01:12:26,300 --> 01:12:27,384 You like it? 894 01:12:28,553 --> 01:12:30,929 This is just exactly... 895 01:12:31,014 --> 01:12:33,098 A little different than the Econo Lodge? 896 01:12:34,851 --> 01:12:36,852 Completely different. 897 01:12:39,647 --> 01:12:42,774 That place reminds me of when we drove down to see your mother, 898 01:12:42,859 --> 01:12:44,234 before we were married. 899 01:12:44,986 --> 01:12:47,279 And we stayed at that little place... 900 01:12:49,282 --> 01:12:51,116 You know, it was the only place that was open. 901 01:12:52,243 --> 01:12:53,660 It was a truck stop. 902 01:12:55,496 --> 01:12:57,122 In Albuquerque? 903 01:12:57,206 --> 01:12:59,958 Oh, I remember that. It had orange walls. 904 01:13:01,377 --> 01:13:02,419 Yeah. 905 01:13:03,296 --> 01:13:05,297 That was the first time you said it. 906 01:13:07,300 --> 01:13:09,509 First time you said you loved me. 907 01:13:09,594 --> 01:13:10,969 In that little motel. 908 01:13:16,017 --> 01:13:18,143 You know, before you said it... 909 01:13:20,480 --> 01:13:23,398 Well, I didn't want to be the one who said it first, 910 01:13:23,483 --> 01:13:26,359 but I just... I had to say it! 911 01:13:26,778 --> 01:13:29,279 So every time we talked on the phone 912 01:13:29,363 --> 01:13:33,325 I would say it to the phone after we hung up! 913 01:13:33,493 --> 01:13:34,576 Really? 914 01:13:34,660 --> 01:13:36,703 Yes, I really did that. 915 01:13:37,080 --> 01:13:40,248 I figured if I ever said anything like that, you'd take off running. 916 01:13:40,875 --> 01:13:41,958 What? 917 01:13:42,585 --> 01:13:44,920 You could have had your pick. 918 01:13:46,839 --> 01:13:50,300 I didn't think you'd ever want me. 919 01:13:51,677 --> 01:13:54,304 I never wanted anything more. 920 01:14:04,565 --> 01:14:07,859 What I don't get is how he remembers to talk like that. 921 01:14:09,529 --> 01:14:13,156 "Consider the metaphor of the nose." 922 01:14:14,283 --> 01:14:16,118 I know. It must be so hard for him. 923 01:14:16,202 --> 01:14:18,954 - I wonder if he talks to his wife like that. - That would be... 924 01:14:19,038 --> 01:14:21,873 "Mildred, I find it very interesting that you are naked." 925 01:14:28,589 --> 01:14:29,714 Can I bring you anything else? 926 01:14:30,007 --> 01:14:31,925 - Do you... - No, I'm fine. 927 01:14:32,009 --> 01:14:33,093 Okay. No, just the check. 928 01:14:33,177 --> 01:14:35,220 - Unless you want to. - No, check, please. 929 01:14:38,808 --> 01:14:40,809 Might get chilly on the way back. 930 01:14:42,478 --> 01:14:44,020 It's been getting cold at night. 931 01:14:46,899 --> 01:14:48,984 Well, the thing is, I've... 932 01:14:50,194 --> 01:14:52,737 I don't know how you'll take this, 933 01:14:53,447 --> 01:14:55,115 but I got us a room. 934 01:14:57,410 --> 01:14:58,451 Here. 935 01:14:59,787 --> 01:15:01,204 You did? 936 01:15:01,998 --> 01:15:05,333 The front desk has toothbrushes. I asked them. 937 01:15:08,254 --> 01:15:11,423 I thought maybe just for a night, it'd be... 938 01:15:12,175 --> 01:15:13,758 You might want to... 939 01:15:16,846 --> 01:15:17,888 So, 940 01:15:19,098 --> 01:15:21,558 after this, we can just... 941 01:15:31,319 --> 01:15:32,611 Like it? 942 01:15:33,112 --> 01:15:34,446 Gosh! 943 01:15:35,239 --> 01:15:37,282 Oh, my gosh. 944 01:15:41,704 --> 01:15:43,246 Look at this. 945 01:15:50,213 --> 01:15:51,546 Look at this! 946 01:15:53,633 --> 01:15:55,508 Here's some strawberries. 947 01:15:56,469 --> 01:15:57,761 You had to get them, 948 01:15:58,888 --> 01:15:59,971 so here they are. 949 01:16:00,640 --> 01:16:02,349 Anyway, you want some? 950 01:16:02,934 --> 01:16:03,975 Strawberries. 951 01:16:07,063 --> 01:16:08,104 I'm kind of full. 952 01:16:08,314 --> 01:16:12,067 Yeah, me, too. And they knew that. It's a rip off, really. You spend 15... 953 01:16:12,151 --> 01:16:15,487 That's okay. You know, I think I would like to have some. 954 01:16:16,030 --> 01:16:17,489 - Yeah? - Yeah. 955 01:16:18,157 --> 01:16:19,157 Okay. 956 01:16:24,163 --> 01:16:26,623 - Do you want to eat them at the table? - Okay. 957 01:16:26,707 --> 01:16:29,417 - Or we could eat them in front of the fire. - Okay. 958 01:16:29,543 --> 01:16:30,585 Okay. 959 01:16:42,974 --> 01:16:44,182 Sweet. 960 01:16:55,403 --> 01:16:56,987 Is it good? 961 01:16:57,113 --> 01:16:58,947 It's good. It's fresh. 962 01:16:59,031 --> 01:17:00,365 Good. 963 01:17:00,616 --> 01:17:02,534 - Chocolaty. - Good. 964 01:17:07,748 --> 01:17:09,749 - You want some? - There's champagne, if you want. 965 01:17:10,418 --> 01:17:11,543 - Yeah. I know... - I'm sorry. Go ahead. 966 01:17:11,627 --> 01:17:13,086 No, you go. 967 01:17:13,212 --> 01:17:14,671 There's champagne. 968 01:17:18,009 --> 01:17:20,385 - You want some? - I think I would like that, Arnold. 969 01:17:50,875 --> 01:17:53,209 I guess you have something in mind there. 970 01:17:57,214 --> 01:17:58,840 I do. 971 01:18:00,092 --> 01:18:01,676 - Hold that thought. - What? 972 01:18:03,095 --> 01:18:06,348 - Hold that thought. - Okay. 973 01:18:33,626 --> 01:18:34,959 Come here. 974 01:19:35,312 --> 01:19:37,063 I want... I want... 975 01:19:37,148 --> 01:19:38,273 You want to... 976 01:19:38,357 --> 01:19:40,900 - All right. You want to... You want to... - Yeah. 977 01:20:09,889 --> 01:20:11,890 Look at me. 978 01:20:34,663 --> 01:20:36,915 - You lied. - No. 979 01:20:39,668 --> 01:20:44,756 When Dr. Feld asked you if you were still attracted to me. 980 01:20:50,930 --> 01:20:52,222 It was when you looked at me. 981 01:20:54,934 --> 01:20:56,559 Just now. 982 01:20:57,269 --> 01:20:59,687 You looked in my face. 983 01:21:00,606 --> 01:21:02,774 That had nothing to do with it. 984 01:21:06,570 --> 01:21:08,780 That's when you stopped. 985 01:21:22,461 --> 01:21:26,798 Setbacks are a natural part of the process. They never feel good, though. 986 01:21:30,636 --> 01:21:32,845 I know you feel like you've failed, 987 01:21:32,930 --> 01:21:36,349 but look where you failed. You fumbled on the one-yard line. 988 01:21:36,684 --> 01:21:40,061 When you got here, you weren't even on the playing field. 989 01:21:40,312 --> 01:21:42,730 You were somewhere in the parking lot. 990 01:21:43,023 --> 01:21:46,359 So I think you're ready to follow up with a therapist at home. 991 01:21:47,319 --> 01:21:49,696 I can recommend somebody really good. 992 01:21:52,783 --> 01:21:56,703 I have patients who never should have gotten married. 993 01:21:57,329 --> 01:21:58,955 And you are not those people. 994 01:22:03,919 --> 01:22:07,964 Even great marriages have terrible years. 995 01:22:09,300 --> 01:22:12,927 So bad that you're tempted to just give up. 996 01:22:14,263 --> 01:22:15,847 But don't. 997 01:22:16,974 --> 01:22:18,308 Hold on. 998 01:22:19,685 --> 01:22:23,771 There will come a time when you'll look back at this moment 999 01:22:25,232 --> 01:22:28,693 as the prelude to something fuller 1000 01:22:30,404 --> 01:22:33,656 and richer than you've ever dreamed. 1001 01:23:54,238 --> 01:23:55,279 - Soames! - Yo. 1002 01:23:55,364 --> 01:23:57,198 - Hey, how was that vacation? - Good! 1003 01:23:57,282 --> 01:23:59,117 - Yeah. Where was it, Vermont? - Maine. 1004 01:23:59,243 --> 01:24:01,160 Maine. That's right. You said Kay likes the ocean. 1005 01:24:02,037 --> 01:24:04,580 So, how was it? You going to go back? 1006 01:24:05,416 --> 01:24:07,250 Probably not. It's a little overpriced. 1007 01:24:07,334 --> 01:24:10,294 Yeah. I hear you, but, hey, if it keeps the missus happy another year, 1008 01:24:10,379 --> 01:24:13,423 - I'd say it's well worth the money spent! - Yeah. 1009 01:24:18,011 --> 01:24:19,971 Jon Ross came in today. 1010 01:24:20,973 --> 01:24:23,015 You'd think it was the first time he'd ever heard that 1011 01:24:23,100 --> 01:24:26,519 October 15th was the deadline for an extension. 1012 01:24:28,355 --> 01:24:30,690 The guy never filed on time in his life! 1013 01:24:31,275 --> 01:24:34,902 And we have the same conversation every year. 1014 01:24:35,779 --> 01:24:38,030 Every goddamn year. 1015 01:24:39,700 --> 01:24:42,160 For 17 years. 1016 01:24:44,163 --> 01:24:46,164 Can you imagine that? 1017 01:24:54,631 --> 01:24:57,925 Hi, again, everybody. School of Golf is back in session for another week. 1018 01:24:58,010 --> 01:25:03,556 This week, it is Chapter 24, "it's All About the Putting Stroke." 1019 01:25:03,849 --> 01:25:06,517 I'm Kraig Kann. This is the professor, Martin Hall. 1020 01:25:06,602 --> 01:25:08,019 Putting. We're rolling it tonight. 1021 01:25:08,103 --> 01:25:10,897 Well, yes. We all want to hit it fewer times... 1022 01:25:25,579 --> 01:25:26,913 So you guys had fun? 1023 01:25:28,457 --> 01:25:31,125 Kind of hard to get back into the old routine. 1024 01:25:33,879 --> 01:25:35,296 What is it? 1025 01:25:36,006 --> 01:25:38,132 - You look like you could cry. - No! 1026 01:25:38,217 --> 01:25:41,177 Do you still need somebody to take care of that cat when you go away? 1027 01:25:41,261 --> 01:25:43,888 Oh, we already got the girl next door. 1028 01:25:44,014 --> 01:25:45,890 But I don't trust her. She's not bright. 1029 01:25:46,517 --> 01:25:48,059 Well, I could do it. 1030 01:25:48,435 --> 01:25:49,685 Really? 1031 01:25:50,229 --> 01:25:55,066 Oh, gosh, are you sure? Because I think I might have a spare key with me. 1032 01:25:55,609 --> 01:25:57,568 And maybe I could stay over. 1033 01:25:59,196 --> 01:26:01,405 A night, or two nights. 1034 01:26:04,159 --> 01:26:06,285 Well, sure. You do that. 1035 01:26:13,252 --> 01:26:15,253 I saw The Caine Mutiny is on later. 1036 01:26:16,088 --> 01:26:17,839 - You want to watch it? - I don't think so. 1037 01:26:17,923 --> 01:26:19,841 I'm just going to go up to bed. 1038 01:26:21,301 --> 01:26:24,095 - Kay. - I'm just a little tired. 1039 01:26:26,473 --> 01:26:27,932 Is it really all that bad? 1040 01:26:30,769 --> 01:26:32,854 It's just expectations. 1041 01:26:32,938 --> 01:26:35,523 Like one of those makeovers, you know? 1042 01:26:37,276 --> 01:26:42,280 You look different for a minute and then go back to yourself, right? 1043 01:26:45,284 --> 01:26:46,701 Right? 1044 01:26:49,913 --> 01:26:52,373 I don't know if I can. 1045 01:26:54,793 --> 01:26:56,127 What? 1046 01:26:58,672 --> 01:27:00,673 I don't know if I can go back. 1047 01:27:15,188 --> 01:27:16,981 You sure this is a gallon can? 1048 01:27:17,149 --> 01:27:20,151 Yes, sir, it's a lard can. Just took it from the pantry, sir. 1049 01:27:21,737 --> 01:27:24,697 I suppose you're wondering why I called this meeting. 1050 01:27:24,781 --> 01:27:27,700 As you all know by now, we had an excellent dessert for dinner tonight, 1051 01:27:27,784 --> 01:27:29,994 ice cream and frozen strawberries. 1052 01:27:30,579 --> 01:27:34,165 An hour ago, I sent Whittaker to the pantry to bring me another portion. 1053 01:31:00,789 --> 01:31:02,039 Kay. 1054 01:32:10,609 --> 01:32:12,776 You are beautiful. 1055 01:32:25,290 --> 01:32:28,042 You... You... 1056 01:33:28,687 --> 01:33:30,271 I'm late. 1057 01:33:31,523 --> 01:33:32,815 Okay. 1058 01:33:34,025 --> 01:33:36,777 - Well, have a nice day. - Okay. 1059 01:33:37,445 --> 01:33:38,696 - Chicken tonight. - Good. 1060 01:33:38,822 --> 01:33:42,366 - With potatoes and maybe some spinach. - Good. No spinach. 1061 01:33:43,326 --> 01:33:45,286 - Okay. 6:00? - 5:30. 1062 01:33:52,544 --> 01:33:53,877 What's the matter? 1063 01:33:54,754 --> 01:33:56,088 What'd you forget? 1064 01:34:19,446 --> 01:34:21,071 Have a nice day. 1065 01:34:25,744 --> 01:34:27,369 Arnold! 1066 01:34:28,580 --> 01:34:30,247 Arnie! 1067 01:34:35,378 --> 01:34:36,628 Hi! 1068 01:34:36,880 --> 01:34:38,255 Carol! 1069 01:34:39,090 --> 01:34:40,924 You got another corgi! 1070 01:34:41,593 --> 01:34:44,511 I know. This is Emma. 1071 01:34:45,889 --> 01:34:47,765 But three's the limit. I'm done. 1072 01:34:48,308 --> 01:34:49,391 How was y'all's trip? 1073 01:34:50,018 --> 01:34:52,811 Our trip was... Our trip was really... 1074 01:34:54,022 --> 01:34:56,690 You should come over tonight and we'll tell you all about it. 1075 01:34:56,775 --> 01:34:58,359 That'd be great. I'd love to. 1076 01:34:58,443 --> 01:34:59,443 Yeah. 1077 01:34:59,611 --> 01:35:01,737 All right. I'll see you guys later. 1078 01:35:01,821 --> 01:35:02,821 Okay. 1079 01:35:07,410 --> 01:35:09,328 That's not going to happen. 1080 01:35:20,507 --> 01:35:22,299 Kay. Arnold. 1081 01:35:23,676 --> 01:35:28,972 We are all here today to witness the renewals of your vows of matrimony. 1082 01:35:29,891 --> 01:35:33,060 We are thrilled, and I especially am very thrilled, 1083 01:35:33,144 --> 01:35:36,355 to be here and to be a part of this very special day. 1084 01:35:36,606 --> 01:35:40,442 Arnold, after 32 years of marriage, 1085 01:35:40,860 --> 01:35:44,780 I can honestly say that I love you more than I ever did. 1086 01:35:45,490 --> 01:35:47,658 The day I met you changed my life. 1087 01:35:48,535 --> 01:35:49,993 It made my life. 1088 01:35:51,329 --> 01:35:55,249 And now I can't imagine living my life without you. 1089 01:35:55,875 --> 01:35:57,751 It wouldn't be any kind of life at all. 1090 01:35:58,461 --> 01:36:03,173 When I think about spending the rest of my life with you, 1091 01:36:04,342 --> 01:36:07,386 I only regret it won't be long enough. 1092 01:36:08,805 --> 01:36:10,139 So I want to now 1093 01:36:11,099 --> 01:36:14,268 make this next chapter of our lives together 1094 01:36:14,352 --> 01:36:17,354 something that we'll both cherish. 1095 01:36:18,815 --> 01:36:23,277 I vow to watch more golf with you without complaining. 1096 01:36:26,531 --> 01:36:28,282 I vow to watch less golf, 1097 01:36:28,950 --> 01:36:31,785 and to buy you good presents that aren't for the house. 1098 01:36:33,621 --> 01:36:35,914 - Maybe like jewelry. - Like jewelry. 1099 01:36:35,999 --> 01:36:38,542 Jewelry. Yes. 1100 01:36:39,043 --> 01:36:43,755 I vow not to cut my hair any shorter than it is, 'cause I know you like it long. 1101 01:36:43,840 --> 01:36:44,965 Longer. 1102 01:36:45,049 --> 01:36:47,718 I vow not to complain so much. 1103 01:36:48,052 --> 01:36:49,136 If I can help it, 1104 01:36:49,220 --> 01:36:53,098 because sometimes there's something that really needs to be complained about. 1105 01:36:53,183 --> 01:36:55,559 And I vow to go to one of those sleep studies. 1106 01:36:56,561 --> 01:36:59,146 Like you've been asking me to go to. 1107 01:36:59,230 --> 01:37:03,692 And I vow to take you somewhere once a year that's more than 200 miles away from home 1108 01:37:03,776 --> 01:37:06,069 and isn't to see a family member. 1109 01:37:08,072 --> 01:37:10,574 Now, on this wonderful day, 1110 01:37:11,117 --> 01:37:13,285 I give you the rest of my life 1111 01:37:14,662 --> 01:37:17,873 and I thank God every day that you're in it. 1112 01:37:18,249 --> 01:37:21,210 And I vow to tell you how I feel, 1113 01:37:21,294 --> 01:37:24,087 not just when you ask me. 1114 01:37:25,965 --> 01:37:28,300 And I'll tell you how I feel about this. 1115 01:37:28,760 --> 01:37:31,553 I love it. I love you. 1116 01:37:41,773 --> 01:37:46,735 We will have the ceremonial breaking of the nose. 1117 01:37:58,790 --> 01:38:00,249 See? That wasn't so hard. 1118 01:38:01,960 --> 01:38:03,252 Thank you. 1119 01:38:05,713 --> 01:38:07,297 Yes, a big boy. 1120 01:38:07,799 --> 01:38:09,424 Congratulations. 1121 01:38:21,771 --> 01:38:25,023 - I'm so glad to meet you! - Finally! 1122 01:38:28,945 --> 01:38:30,654 Brad, Brad, Brad!