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Come in!
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What?
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What are you doing?
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I was just thinking that...
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I could sleep in here tonight.
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In here? Why? Something
wrong with your room?
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Is it too warm? Because I had that
air conditioner completely...
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No.
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Well, then what?
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I just wanted...
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Oh. Well...
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I don't...
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Uh,
I'm not feeling well...
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I had pork for lunch and I...
Mmm-hmm.
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I think it's probably
best if we just... If I...
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Mmm-hmm. That's okay.
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I mean, I...
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I'll just go back.
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Thank you.
Mmm-hmm.
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6:00?
Mmm-hmm.
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I'm making prime rib for our...
Mmm-hmm.
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All right.
Bye!
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Bye.
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Think you can
change your marriage?
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Change your marriage?
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What do you mean?
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Like you mostly eat in on
Fridays and then you eat out?
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Or that you're at
each other's throats
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and suddenly you're Cinderella
and Prince Charming.
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The second one.
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No. No.
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You married who you marry,
you are who you are.
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Why would that change?
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Well, if you wanted it to.
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No, I think for that to happen,
it would have to be so bad
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that somebody was willing to risk
everything just to shake things up
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and then it may not
come down your way.
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No, change is hard.
Marriages don't change.
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Hey, what are you making tonight?
The kids still coming over?
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Yeah. Prime rib.
45
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Oh,
they are so beautiful!
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Huh, Arnold?
Just what we needed.
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Mmm-hmm.
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I picked them out.
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Show-off.
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So what'd you guys
get each other?
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Yeah, 31. What gift is that?
Silver? Ivory? Paper?
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No, it isn't anything special.
Just an off year.
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Oh! We got each other
the new cable subscription.
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Oh, great.
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It's a lot of channels.
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First of all, so many
of you are dealing with,
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"Should I open the club face,
or should I do this?"
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You can learn to
break like this.
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All he's doing is he's
taking the club back.
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He doesn't have a lot
of wrist hinge at all.
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In fact, in the down-the-line view,
what his swing looks like is,
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the head of the club
is outside of the hands here.
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Very, very late wrist set.
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He gets up into here,
like this,
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and then his body
is moving forward
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while the club
is going backwards
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and that's how you get this real...
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Arnold.
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Turn off the air down here?
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Mmm-hmm!
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Night.
Good night.
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I can't
tell you how many...
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Shh!
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...questions I get on what
constitutes the perfect marriage.
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I see couples who think
their marriages are over.
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Who feel like it's impossible
to regain what they once had.
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Well, it's not. It's not
impossible-And it's not too late
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for anyone who truly wants it
and is willing to try.
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Thank you.
Mmm-hmm.
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What are you...
You eating?
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No. I, I...
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What? You're just
going to sit there?
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Okay.
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What do we got?
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I want to go.
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"Dr. Bernard Feld, Center for
Intensive Couples Counseling."
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You want to go to
intensive couples counseling?
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In Maine.
Maine.
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Only half the day.
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Rest of the day you can read,
or look around the town.
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$4,000 for a week?
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Well, it's intensive.
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Have to be gold-plated.
94
00:10:04,854 --> 00:10:06,026
Well, I paid for it.
95
00:10:08,108 --> 00:10:09,200
How?
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I used my C.D.
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00:10:10,652 --> 00:10:12,074
How'd you get
access to your C.D.?
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I called Vince.
Oh.
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00:10:13,822 --> 00:10:15,540
You called my office
without talking to me.
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I made a reservation for us.
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Well, cancel it.
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I want to go.
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Have you been
to see Dr. Lesser?
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Maybe this has something to
do with that hormonal thing.
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I am not crazy, Arnold!
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00:10:31,756 --> 00:10:32,973
Well, then I don't
know what to say to you.
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In all our years together,
never have I...
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Have you heard me
ask for anything?
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Excuse me? Did we not just get a new
refrigerator because you wanted...
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That's not what I mean.
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Well, you're a grown woman. You
can go anywhere you want to go.
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But I'm not going.
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So if you want to go to intensive
couples counseling all by yourself,
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I'll see you
when you get back.
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Maybe I will.
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All right.
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Maybe I will.
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You're not going to
get audited over $217.
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Well, you're just not.
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00:11:03,705 --> 00:11:06,299
All right! Call Terri
to make an appointment.
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Yes, and thank you. Bye.
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You know, Kay called me.
I meant to tell you.
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That's nothing. She's just been
acting kind of off, is all.
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Off? How? I don't know.
Threatening me.
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What does she want? Car?
Vacation, something?
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No. Yeah, a vacation.
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I'll tell you, when Susan
used to threaten me,
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I did what
we all want to do.
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Head up to Brewsky's,
not call,
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come home late piss drunk,
a big "screw you."
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You see how that worked out.
Uh-huh.
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If I had to do it again,
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I'd be on it with flowers, a card,
dinner, maybe even a necklace.
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I'd be in there like the Orkin
Man and kill that thing dead.
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Maybe then I
wouldn't be in a condo.
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The girl
liked those best.
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I told her how much
you liked the ocean.
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This is your boarding pass.
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Oh, come on.
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The flight leaves at
10:02 in the morning.
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What is wrong with you? What
are you trying to do to us?
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I want a real
marriage again, Arnold.
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A real marriage? This isn't real
after 31 years? This isn't real?
144
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When's the last time
that you touched me
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that wasn't
just for a picture?
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00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:42,854
When's the last time
you kissed me?
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I kiss you every day.
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We're not 22 years old
any more, things change.
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I could be more...
You know. I could...
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Um, this is insane.
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The flight leaves at 10:02 tomorrow.
I'm going to be on it.
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Your supper's on the table.
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You're not even...
You're not even gonna...
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Aren't...
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So if you're one
of those people
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that's looking
for more distance,
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well if you're doing this, guess what?
I don't like your chances.
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Good morning.
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Morning, ma'am.
Let me take this for you.
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Thank you.
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00:14:05,219 --> 00:14:06,721
Where we going today?
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To the airport.
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I hope you're happy.
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00:15:45,528 --> 00:15:47,530
How far is this place, anyway?
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00:15:47,613 --> 00:15:49,536
Only a couple of hours.
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00:15:49,615 --> 00:15:52,414
Couple of hours. That's
enough to put us in Canada.
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00:15:55,496 --> 00:15:57,669
I'm really glad
you came, Arnold.
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00:15:57,748 --> 00:15:58,965
Yeah?
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00:15:59,041 --> 00:16:00,543
Well, you tell me
that when we get lost
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and wind up in
downtown Montreal
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and everybody's
talking French.
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00:16:21,397 --> 00:16:22,489
There's a hotel. Is that it?
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00:16:22,565 --> 00:16:23,737
Mmm...
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00:16:24,609 --> 00:16:26,031
No.
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00:16:27,069 --> 00:16:28,912
We're at the Econo Lodge.
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They were in the car,
under the seat.
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Oh! Oh.
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00:17:05,233 --> 00:17:07,031
What time does this thing
start in the morning?
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10:30.
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We might as well be on time.
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Get our money's worth.
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00:17:13,115 --> 00:17:14,116
Mmm-hmm.
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I'll set the alarm.
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00:17:15,743 --> 00:17:17,211
I wouldn't give us
too much extra time.
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00:17:17,286 --> 00:17:20,506
It's probably impossible to
get lost in a burg this size.
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Mmm.
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00:17:23,292 --> 00:17:24,464
Well...
Well...
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00:17:26,546 --> 00:17:28,173
We, we could...
189
00:17:29,757 --> 00:17:32,806
I guess I'll go see
how the pull-out works.
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00:17:35,805 --> 00:17:37,307
Uh...
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00:17:40,226 --> 00:17:44,026
Goddamn! How is this
thing supposed to...
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00:17:44,105 --> 00:17:45,482
I'll do it.
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00:17:46,232 --> 00:17:47,484
I'll do it.
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00:17:47,608 --> 00:17:50,282
You think there's a building in this
place that does not have shutters?
195
00:17:50,361 --> 00:17:52,580
The whole town looks like it was
built by Hansel and Gretel.
196
00:17:52,655 --> 00:17:54,373
I think it's charming.
197
00:17:54,448 --> 00:17:55,540
That's what they
want you to think.
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00:17:55,616 --> 00:17:57,493
You think
he did it on purpose?
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00:17:57,577 --> 00:17:59,124
Picking the most
remote possible...
200
00:17:59,203 --> 00:18:01,251
I mean, you're trapped here.
It's like Alcatraz.
201
00:18:01,330 --> 00:18:03,503
Maybe he just wanted people
to have to get away.
202
00:18:03,583 --> 00:18:06,678
From what? Cell phone service?
I don't even have one bar.
203
00:18:08,462 --> 00:18:11,306
Think you can get a decent plate of
eggs anywhere in this zip code?
204
00:18:11,382 --> 00:18:13,384
Oh, there's a... That
little place looks sweet.
205
00:18:13,467 --> 00:18:14,434
Oh, that place?
206
00:18:14,510 --> 00:18:17,309
I guarantee you that place does not
serve breakfast for under $10.
207
00:18:17,388 --> 00:18:18,731
You're a captive
audience here.
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00:18:18,848 --> 00:18:21,101
We're only here for a week.
It's like an airport.
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00:18:21,225 --> 00:18:23,319
We might as well try... A week?
I'll be bankrupt in a week.
210
00:18:23,394 --> 00:18:25,067
Let's go. Come on.
211
00:18:27,815 --> 00:18:29,408
Coffee to start?
212
00:18:29,525 --> 00:18:31,072
Yes. Please.
213
00:18:31,152 --> 00:18:33,996
Is there anything on this menu
that doesn't have lobster in it?
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00:18:34,071 --> 00:18:35,072
Oh.
215
00:18:35,573 --> 00:18:37,246
See, there are your eggs.
216
00:18:37,325 --> 00:18:38,793
And, look, they have
a breakfast special.
217
00:18:38,951 --> 00:18:41,124
What's special about $11.75?
218
00:18:41,203 --> 00:18:43,581
All right, I'm going to have
a side of two eggs,
219
00:18:43,664 --> 00:18:45,166
sunny side up,
and a side of bacon, crisp.
220
00:18:45,249 --> 00:18:46,967
I'll just give you the special.
It comes with the...
221
00:18:47,043 --> 00:18:49,546
Nope.
The special's $1 more.
222
00:18:49,879 --> 00:18:50,880
And for you?
223
00:18:50,963 --> 00:18:53,842
Yes. I'm just going to have the
fruit and cottage cheese plate.
224
00:18:53,924 --> 00:18:56,143
I have a nervous stomach.
225
00:18:57,553 --> 00:18:59,271
And we're in a tiny
bit of a hurry because...
226
00:18:59,347 --> 00:19:03,022
You got the 10:30 with Bernie.
We'll get you there on time.
227
00:19:03,100 --> 00:19:04,443
Good luck.
228
00:19:07,897 --> 00:19:09,319
There it is.
229
00:19:09,774 --> 00:19:10,775
Oh, nice digs.
230
00:19:10,858 --> 00:19:11,825
Yeah.
231
00:19:11,901 --> 00:19:13,153
Mmm-hmm.
232
00:19:15,988 --> 00:19:19,743
If he says one word about
repressed memories, I am leaving.
233
00:19:22,578 --> 00:19:24,501
Kay and Arnold,
I'm so glad you're here.
234
00:19:24,747 --> 00:19:26,249
Well, that makes one of us.
235
00:19:26,332 --> 00:19:27,333
Hmm.
236
00:19:28,417 --> 00:19:31,045
So, Arnold, I take it intensive
therapy was not your idea.
237
00:19:31,295 --> 00:19:32,592
Nope!
238
00:19:33,047 --> 00:19:34,264
You wanted to come?
239
00:19:34,632 --> 00:19:35,679
Yes.
240
00:19:35,758 --> 00:19:37,055
All right.
And Arnold, you?
241
00:19:37,134 --> 00:19:39,182
I thought she was nuts.
242
00:19:39,261 --> 00:19:42,936
We're not in the same tax
bracket as your other patients.
243
00:19:43,182 --> 00:19:44,434
I think you'd be surprised.
244
00:19:44,517 --> 00:19:46,485
Well, even if we were,
all due respect.
245
00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:49,404
I really don't
see the point here.
246
00:19:50,815 --> 00:19:52,738
So, you think there's nothing
wrong with your marriage.
247
00:19:53,192 --> 00:19:56,036
Well, we've been married
31 years, isn't it?
248
00:19:57,947 --> 00:19:59,620
It's not perfect.
249
00:19:59,782 --> 00:20:02,626
But in your opinion,
it works well enough.
250
00:20:04,954 --> 00:20:06,456
But you wanted to come.
251
00:20:08,416 --> 00:20:09,884
You persuaded Arnold?
252
00:20:09,959 --> 00:20:12,178
No. I mean, I paid for it.
253
00:20:14,130 --> 00:20:16,349
With my own money,
from savings.
254
00:20:16,632 --> 00:20:18,509
All right. So this is
really important to you.
255
00:20:19,885 --> 00:20:20,932
Mmm-hmm.
256
00:20:21,303 --> 00:20:22,725
Tell me why.
257
00:20:23,139 --> 00:20:27,610
I want to have
a marriage again.
258
00:20:27,685 --> 00:20:28,732
Again?
259
00:20:28,811 --> 00:20:31,109
If we don't have a marriage,
I don't know who does.
260
00:20:31,188 --> 00:20:34,658
Arnold. Let's let Kay talk
and you can respond after.
261
00:20:34,900 --> 00:20:37,278
Okay. Fine. "Again."
262
00:20:39,321 --> 00:20:40,618
Arnold used to touch me.
263
00:20:40,698 --> 00:20:41,824
Oh, God.
264
00:20:41,907 --> 00:20:45,957
Not just... You know,
265
00:20:47,204 --> 00:20:50,708
but he would touch my arm
or my shoulder, just to...
266
00:20:52,042 --> 00:20:54,966
Just to, I don't know,
because he wanted to.
267
00:20:55,337 --> 00:20:56,589
And now he doesn't?
268
00:20:59,175 --> 00:21:01,303
And that bothers you.
269
00:21:02,636 --> 00:21:04,354
Do you touch him?
270
00:21:05,222 --> 00:21:07,725
Not really.
He doesn't like it.
271
00:21:09,101 --> 00:21:11,354
Is she right, Arnold? Do you
like it when she touches you?
272
00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:13,147
I don't know.
273
00:21:13,272 --> 00:21:15,115
You don't know?
I don't think about it.
274
00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:18,781
All right.
275
00:21:23,324 --> 00:21:24,371
What else, Kay?
276
00:21:24,450 --> 00:21:30,207
Well, it feels like we live in
the house together like two...
277
00:21:31,957 --> 00:21:34,551
Like two workers
who bunk in the same room.
278
00:21:36,253 --> 00:21:39,553
Except we don't...
We're not in the same room,
279
00:21:39,632 --> 00:21:42,226
but it just feels
like there's nothing
280
00:21:42,301 --> 00:21:45,020
holding us together
except the house.
281
00:21:45,095 --> 00:21:47,348
Nothing holding us together
like 31 years of...
282
00:21:48,307 --> 00:21:49,308
Of what, Arnold?
283
00:21:49,391 --> 00:21:50,734
Marriage.
284
00:21:52,061 --> 00:21:53,529
What does that
word mean to you?
285
00:21:53,604 --> 00:21:56,073
Means we have a marriage license
and I pay all the bills.
286
00:21:56,148 --> 00:21:58,492
Not to mention
our two grown...
287
00:21:59,485 --> 00:22:00,907
You really have
lost your mind.
288
00:22:01,237 --> 00:22:04,332
Let's try to keep the conversation
descriptive and positive.
289
00:22:07,159 --> 00:22:09,036
Kay, please continue.
290
00:22:11,247 --> 00:22:12,373
Um...
291
00:22:14,124 --> 00:22:16,001
We don't talk
about anything.
292
00:22:16,085 --> 00:22:19,055
Talk! What is there
I don't know about you?
293
00:22:19,129 --> 00:22:20,756
About Eileen and
the skirts she bought
294
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:24,219
or if she took back the little
necklace with the tiki gods.
295
00:22:24,301 --> 00:22:25,518
Jesus Christ.
296
00:22:25,594 --> 00:22:28,438
No, I don't mean...
I just mean, I don't...
297
00:22:30,891 --> 00:22:34,862
I don't tell Arnold how
I feel about anything.
298
00:22:36,188 --> 00:22:38,691
And I don't know how he feels
about anything either.
299
00:22:38,774 --> 00:22:40,697
I'll tell you how I feel
about this, I hate it.
300
00:22:40,776 --> 00:22:42,653
All right. This is good.
301
00:22:42,736 --> 00:22:43,783
Good. Yeah.
Good for you.
302
00:22:43,946 --> 00:22:45,198
The more we tear
each other apart,
303
00:22:45,281 --> 00:22:47,033
the more money we have to pay
you to put it back together.
304
00:22:47,116 --> 00:22:51,246
Jesus God. You
people are worse than lawyers.
305
00:22:52,997 --> 00:22:54,419
I understand how you feel.
306
00:22:54,498 --> 00:22:55,841
Yeah?
307
00:22:55,916 --> 00:22:59,045
You two have come here to try to
restore intimacy to your marriage.
308
00:22:59,128 --> 00:23:00,926
So that is
going to be the goal
309
00:23:01,005 --> 00:23:02,928
of our very focused
sessions together.
310
00:23:03,007 --> 00:23:06,102
To find ways to communicate
your needs to one another.
311
00:23:06,176 --> 00:23:08,099
To cultivate intimacy.
312
00:23:08,178 --> 00:23:12,274
And to develop the tools to sustain
that intimacy going forward.
313
00:23:17,146 --> 00:23:19,444
The first step in
rebuilding a marriage
314
00:23:19,523 --> 00:23:22,322
is tearing away
some of the scar tissue
315
00:23:22,401 --> 00:23:23,903
that has built up
over the years.
316
00:23:24,361 --> 00:23:27,035
It can be very painful,
but it's worth it.
317
00:23:27,114 --> 00:23:28,491
I like to think of it...
318
00:23:28,574 --> 00:23:34,001
The metaphor of when you have a
deviated septum and you can't breathe?
319
00:23:34,872 --> 00:23:38,046
You have to break the nose
in order to fix it.
320
00:23:42,630 --> 00:23:44,632
Charlatan!
321
00:23:44,715 --> 00:23:47,264
No, he's worse than a charlatan.
He's like one of those...
322
00:23:48,385 --> 00:23:50,638
Says he's "honed his method."
The only thing he's honed
323
00:23:50,721 --> 00:23:52,769
is making sure that
if you don't walk in
324
00:23:52,848 --> 00:23:54,441
with
a marriage-destroying problem,
325
00:23:54,516 --> 00:23:56,439
you won't leave without one.
326
00:23:56,518 --> 00:24:00,489
He's like those moisturizing eye
drops that make your eyes dry.
327
00:24:00,564 --> 00:24:03,317
$4,000. That could
have been a new roof!
328
00:24:03,651 --> 00:24:06,780
Did you look at his credentials or
even read that brochure that you...
329
00:24:06,862 --> 00:24:07,909
I mean, my God!
330
00:24:08,030 --> 00:24:11,204
Unbelievable! I'd like to have a
look at this guy's tax returns.
331
00:24:11,283 --> 00:24:12,535
Whoo-hoo.
332
00:24:13,035 --> 00:24:17,085
Oh, don't.
Come on, just don't.
333
00:24:19,541 --> 00:24:20,963
You have to
stop yelling at me.
334
00:24:21,043 --> 00:24:22,545
I'm not yelling!
Who's yelling?
335
00:24:22,628 --> 00:24:24,050
Hey. Welcome back.
336
00:24:24,129 --> 00:24:26,302
I'll have an Arnold
Palmer and a tuna melt.
337
00:24:26,382 --> 00:24:28,805
You sure you're
ready to commit?
338
00:24:30,552 --> 00:24:32,099
I'll have the soup
and salad, please.
339
00:24:32,179 --> 00:24:33,726
Okey-dokey.
340
00:24:35,307 --> 00:24:39,904
$9 for a tuna melt, it's canned
tuna, a slab of cheese and toast.
341
00:24:39,979 --> 00:24:42,107
Feld's probably
getting kickbacks.
342
00:24:43,983 --> 00:24:46,486
I saw a grocery store
near the motel.
343
00:24:46,568 --> 00:24:48,821
We can buy some cold cuts,
eat in the room.
344
00:24:48,904 --> 00:24:50,906
Are you guys
here for Bernie?
345
00:24:51,365 --> 00:24:53,584
Mmm-hmm.
We come back every year.
346
00:24:53,659 --> 00:24:55,002
For a tune-up.
347
00:24:55,411 --> 00:24:56,458
Oh.
348
00:24:57,204 --> 00:25:00,583
In case you're wondering,
we are never coming back.
349
00:25:02,918 --> 00:25:07,298
I mean, if I had ever said so
much as even one unkind word...
350
00:25:07,381 --> 00:25:09,759
Do you want the hard salami
or do you want this kind here?
351
00:25:09,842 --> 00:25:10,889
I don't care.
352
00:25:10,968 --> 00:25:11,969
I mean, my brother, Ralph,
353
00:25:12,094 --> 00:25:14,768
if Angela had ever taken him
to one of these things, whew.
354
00:25:15,222 --> 00:25:18,021
You. I just hope you
remember this next year
355
00:25:18,100 --> 00:25:20,353
when you want to tell me that
I never help and I never...
356
00:25:20,436 --> 00:25:22,404
I'm getting the Limburger,
you don't have to eat it.
357
00:25:22,479 --> 00:25:23,901
And I'll tell you one thing,
358
00:25:23,981 --> 00:25:26,860
we're going to go to Florida and see my
mother next year for the full two weeks.
359
00:25:26,942 --> 00:25:29,570
You have forfeited
your right to complain.
360
00:25:29,653 --> 00:25:31,530
Oh, boy! I was thinking
about you the whole...
361
00:25:31,613 --> 00:25:34,287
Get away from the door!
I'm getting!
362
00:25:38,162 --> 00:25:39,288
What happened to you?
363
00:25:39,371 --> 00:25:41,339
I had to do that thing
and the handle came off.
364
00:25:41,415 --> 00:25:44,840
Oh, me, too! And it broke,
and that kid, he played bad.
365
00:26:22,956 --> 00:26:25,300
It was a course
at the university.
366
00:26:25,667 --> 00:26:27,544
Beginning Accounting.
367
00:26:27,628 --> 00:26:30,347
And Arnold was
the teaching assistant.
368
00:26:30,422 --> 00:26:32,220
What was your first impression
of Kay, Arnold?
369
00:26:32,299 --> 00:26:35,348
She was pretty.
Very pretty.
370
00:26:35,761 --> 00:26:36,762
What else?
371
00:26:36,845 --> 00:26:39,473
She probably shouldn't
major in accounting.
372
00:26:42,851 --> 00:26:46,572
And Thanksgiving passed,
no ring,
373
00:26:47,022 --> 00:26:50,492
and my dad said, "Well, you
picked the wrong horse."
374
00:26:51,026 --> 00:26:53,028
But two days later,
I found it.
375
00:26:53,112 --> 00:26:56,116
He had hidden it,
the ring, in a cinnamon bun.
376
00:26:57,449 --> 00:26:59,167
I was so surprised.
377
00:26:59,243 --> 00:27:00,790
What was holding
you up, Arnold?
378
00:27:00,869 --> 00:27:04,089
Well,
it's not like buying a car.
379
00:27:09,670 --> 00:27:12,344
And that winter,
Arnold threw his back out.
380
00:27:12,422 --> 00:27:14,424
I was helping Brad
paint his room and...
381
00:27:14,508 --> 00:27:17,557
He said he would be more
comfortable sleeping alone.
382
00:27:17,678 --> 00:27:18,975
That hurt like
a son of a bitch.
383
00:27:19,054 --> 00:27:21,682
But then,
his back got better.
384
00:27:21,765 --> 00:27:23,767
It still bothers me
a little bit. But also I...
385
00:27:23,851 --> 00:27:24,977
He snores.
386
00:27:25,060 --> 00:27:26,983
I have that
sleep apnea deal.
387
00:27:27,062 --> 00:27:29,360
So he just stayed in the
guest room after that.
388
00:27:29,439 --> 00:27:30,691
Yeah.
389
00:27:31,066 --> 00:27:32,739
Did you ask him to come back?
390
00:27:33,861 --> 00:27:36,489
No. I didn't think he'd...
391
00:27:38,490 --> 00:27:39,742
No.
392
00:27:40,284 --> 00:27:41,376
Hmm.
393
00:27:41,743 --> 00:27:44,246
So it's been a long time since
you've slept in the same room.
394
00:27:46,165 --> 00:27:47,883
When was the last
time you had sex?
395
00:27:50,085 --> 00:27:51,428
Yeah.
396
00:27:52,713 --> 00:27:55,136
Uh, I have no idea.
397
00:27:55,215 --> 00:27:57,764
Well, let's try
to think about it.
398
00:28:10,272 --> 00:28:13,276
It was four years ago, almost
five years ago. In September.
399
00:28:14,318 --> 00:28:16,787
When Brad moved out
after college.
400
00:28:16,862 --> 00:28:19,285
September 22nd.
I remember thinking,
401
00:28:19,364 --> 00:28:22,868
"He's moving out on
the first day of fall."
402
00:28:22,951 --> 00:28:24,703
We get the picture, okay?
403
00:28:24,786 --> 00:28:26,914
This makes you uncomfortable
talking about this, doesn't it?
404
00:28:26,997 --> 00:28:28,749
Well, sue me because
I don't want to talk
405
00:28:28,832 --> 00:28:31,210
about having sex with my wife
with a total stranger.
406
00:28:31,293 --> 00:28:32,966
You want to talk
about it at all?
407
00:28:39,635 --> 00:28:42,138
What else do you remember
about that day, Kay?
408
00:28:42,596 --> 00:28:44,473
How'd you make love?
409
00:28:44,598 --> 00:28:45,850
How?
410
00:28:45,974 --> 00:28:49,444
Was it the missionary position?
Arnold on top?
411
00:28:49,519 --> 00:28:50,736
Oh, yeah.
412
00:28:50,812 --> 00:28:51,813
Was it always
missionary position?
413
00:28:51,897 --> 00:28:52,898
Oh, please.
414
00:28:52,981 --> 00:28:54,904
Mostly, yes. Mmm-hmm.
415
00:28:55,192 --> 00:28:58,321
Were there particular things
that you enjoyed doing?
416
00:29:02,574 --> 00:29:04,497
Mostly it was the same.
417
00:29:05,077 --> 00:29:06,920
Was your sex life
satisfying for you?
418
00:29:06,995 --> 00:29:08,588
Well, it was fine.
419
00:29:08,664 --> 00:29:09,711
Yeah. All right.
420
00:29:11,833 --> 00:29:13,085
Okay.
421
00:29:14,253 --> 00:29:16,472
I would like to assign
you your first exercise.
422
00:29:17,339 --> 00:29:18,966
What... What kind of...
423
00:29:19,049 --> 00:29:20,767
Tonight, I would like you
to spend a period of time
424
00:29:20,842 --> 00:29:22,344
with your arms
around one another.
425
00:29:23,595 --> 00:29:26,519
Well, what's the... Why?
426
00:29:27,015 --> 00:29:31,145
Because I want you to remember what
it's like to touch each other.
427
00:29:31,395 --> 00:29:33,568
Do you think
you can do that?
428
00:29:34,731 --> 00:29:35,732
Arnold?
429
00:29:35,816 --> 00:29:37,818
Well, maybe that's what...
430
00:29:37,901 --> 00:29:40,029
I mean, forced intimacy...
Is that really...
431
00:29:40,112 --> 00:29:41,113
It's not forced intimacy.
432
00:29:41,196 --> 00:29:42,823
That's what it sounds like.
Oh...
433
00:29:42,948 --> 00:29:45,292
- What? We're supposed to be truthful here.
- You are.
434
00:29:45,534 --> 00:29:48,959
Although... So what I'm saying is
that I don't think this exercise,
435
00:29:49,037 --> 00:29:51,290
or whatever you wanna call it,
sounds like something...
436
00:29:51,373 --> 00:29:52,875
It's not forced.
If I do that
437
00:29:52,958 --> 00:29:54,926
just because somebody tells
me to, what is the point?
438
00:29:55,002 --> 00:29:58,802
I don't think I like the idea
of anybody telling me...
439
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:03,306
I mean, the whole idea of this exercise
thing is totally ridiculous to me.
440
00:30:03,385 --> 00:30:05,558
I'm not a trained monkey!
441
00:30:05,679 --> 00:30:07,272
You're a bully!
What?
442
00:30:07,389 --> 00:30:11,019
Since you got here, all you've
done is make me feel...
443
00:30:11,101 --> 00:30:12,102
Kay? Kay.
444
00:30:12,185 --> 00:30:13,903
...terrible.
445
00:30:14,938 --> 00:30:16,190
I've had it.
446
00:30:17,566 --> 00:30:19,034
Kay!
447
00:30:28,035 --> 00:30:30,629
Kay. Kay.
448
00:30:32,122 --> 00:30:33,999
Kay, come on.
This is infantile.
449
00:30:34,082 --> 00:30:35,834
I think you're infantile!
450
00:30:35,917 --> 00:30:37,544
Look... Where are you going?
451
00:30:38,170 --> 00:30:39,467
This is insane.
452
00:30:39,546 --> 00:30:41,139
No, it's not!
453
00:30:42,424 --> 00:30:44,017
Where are you going?
454
00:31:28,428 --> 00:31:30,851
You can come in.
We don't bite.
455
00:31:35,477 --> 00:31:37,320
What can I get you?
456
00:31:38,021 --> 00:31:39,147
Um...
457
00:31:41,900 --> 00:31:45,325
Would you recommend
the red wine or the white?
458
00:31:45,821 --> 00:31:47,323
Do you like red wine?
459
00:31:47,697 --> 00:31:48,744
Yeah.
460
00:31:48,824 --> 00:31:50,451
Then I'd go with the white.
461
00:32:05,006 --> 00:32:10,183
And so,
I was just hoping that,
462
00:32:10,679 --> 00:32:11,976
maybe if...
463
00:32:12,055 --> 00:32:14,228
Trying to get
the old magic back?
464
00:32:14,307 --> 00:32:15,559
Yeah.
465
00:32:16,518 --> 00:32:17,690
Did you ever have it?
466
00:32:26,945 --> 00:32:30,324
You want the audio tour?
It's $4.95.
467
00:32:34,578 --> 00:32:36,296
The thing is
468
00:32:37,706 --> 00:32:40,425
we really don't
have sex, mostly.
469
00:32:41,543 --> 00:32:43,170
At all.
470
00:32:43,295 --> 00:32:44,592
That's it?
471
00:32:48,675 --> 00:32:51,224
All right. Who in here
is not having sex?
472
00:32:52,554 --> 00:32:53,555
Not me.
473
00:32:54,473 --> 00:32:56,896
Mike, I know
you're not getting any.
474
00:33:03,231 --> 00:33:05,154
- This one's on us.
- Thank you.
475
00:33:26,505 --> 00:33:27,552
I'm back!
476
00:33:27,631 --> 00:33:28,632
I see that.
477
00:33:33,220 --> 00:33:34,221
I went to the museum.
478
00:33:34,304 --> 00:33:35,305
Did you?
479
00:33:35,388 --> 00:33:36,435
Was it interesting?
480
00:33:36,515 --> 00:33:37,687
Extremely.
481
00:33:38,183 --> 00:33:40,185
Of course, if you want to go,
you'll have to do it on your own.
482
00:33:40,268 --> 00:33:43,147
Mmm-hmm.
I'm getting ready for bed.
483
00:33:53,823 --> 00:33:56,042
Where'd you go
this afternoon?
484
00:33:56,117 --> 00:33:57,369
Oh.
485
00:33:57,452 --> 00:33:59,125
Just around.
486
00:33:59,621 --> 00:34:02,170
I thought you
wanted to do that thing.
487
00:34:02,290 --> 00:34:05,510
But if you don't want to
do it, I sure don't care.
488
00:34:06,628 --> 00:34:09,006
All right,
I'll just go to bed.
489
00:34:09,506 --> 00:34:10,803
I want to do it.
490
00:34:19,140 --> 00:34:21,393
I guess we should do it there.
491
00:34:24,187 --> 00:34:25,439
Mmm-hmm.
492
00:34:42,998 --> 00:34:47,344
Well, I guess
I'll get in.
493
00:35:11,776 --> 00:35:13,778
Maybe this is enough.
494
00:35:30,837 --> 00:35:32,714
Yeah, probably enough.
495
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:42,899
I was just
getting the light.
496
00:36:57,090 --> 00:36:58,888
And then we did
the exercise...
497
00:36:58,967 --> 00:37:00,890
Yeah, that was...
498
00:37:00,969 --> 00:37:01,970
...and we woke up.
499
00:37:02,053 --> 00:37:03,054
Yeah.
500
00:37:04,597 --> 00:37:06,315
And we were
in the same bed.
501
00:37:06,433 --> 00:37:07,434
Yeah, it was...
502
00:37:07,517 --> 00:37:09,645
It was comfortable.
Yep.
503
00:37:13,356 --> 00:37:15,779
This is good.
Really good.
504
00:37:16,985 --> 00:37:18,578
By taking some
time to yourselves,
505
00:37:18,653 --> 00:37:21,076
you were able to
relate better as a couple.
506
00:37:21,156 --> 00:37:22,578
And you both did it
without even trying.
507
00:37:22,657 --> 00:37:24,125
Well, she wanted
to spend time apart.
508
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:25,372
Yeah. I was so mad.
509
00:37:25,452 --> 00:37:27,329
Mad as a wet cat.
510
00:37:28,663 --> 00:37:30,631
But, you know, it was
nice, wasn't it?
511
00:37:30,707 --> 00:37:33,335
To do something on
your own, you know.
512
00:37:33,752 --> 00:37:35,470
Great, you two.
Really great.
513
00:37:35,545 --> 00:37:37,513
I'm thrilled with the
progress that you've made.
514
00:37:37,589 --> 00:37:39,762
And I think it's going to
make it that much easier
515
00:37:39,841 --> 00:37:41,718
to proceed to
the next step.
516
00:37:41,843 --> 00:37:43,470
Next step. That's great.
Let's get with it.
517
00:37:43,553 --> 00:37:46,397
I mean, we're doing so well, we might
be able to get out of here early.
518
00:37:46,473 --> 00:37:48,100
Okay, next step.
What is it?
519
00:37:48,183 --> 00:37:50,902
Write a poem? Hold hands in public?
Sing a serenade?
520
00:37:51,186 --> 00:37:52,654
Sex.
521
00:37:55,565 --> 00:37:58,990
We're going to talk extensively
about your sexual history.
522
00:37:59,068 --> 00:38:02,163
When it started. What it included.
What it didn't include.
523
00:38:02,947 --> 00:38:06,121
If you had orgasms,
vaginally or otherwise.
524
00:38:06,868 --> 00:38:10,498
If you had issues around
sexuality or performance.
525
00:38:11,664 --> 00:38:14,463
Whether you talked
about sex or during it.
526
00:38:14,542 --> 00:38:15,794
What your fantasies are.
527
00:38:16,044 --> 00:38:17,671
If you ever
acted on fantasies.
528
00:38:17,754 --> 00:38:19,927
Brought toys or sex games
into the bedroom.
529
00:38:20,006 --> 00:38:21,804
Brought sex out
of the bedroom.
530
00:38:21,883 --> 00:38:23,385
And once we've explored
all of those things,
531
00:38:23,468 --> 00:38:25,141
I will give you
your first sexual,
532
00:38:25,220 --> 00:38:27,473
not sex,
but sexual, exercise.
533
00:38:30,683 --> 00:38:32,401
All right?
534
00:38:32,602 --> 00:38:34,354
Let's get started.
535
00:38:35,438 --> 00:38:37,065
Arnold,
would you like to begin?
536
00:38:38,900 --> 00:38:40,652
Do you...
537
00:38:41,194 --> 00:38:44,198
I think we ought to stop
this right now before...
538
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,874
We should just get
our things and go.
539
00:38:52,205 --> 00:38:54,583
I'll go first. I will.
540
00:38:54,749 --> 00:38:56,126
Fine.
541
00:38:56,501 --> 00:38:57,878
Terrific.
542
00:38:57,961 --> 00:38:59,258
All right.
543
00:38:59,337 --> 00:39:03,638
Kay, let's talk about
what you liked sexually.
544
00:39:14,435 --> 00:39:16,278
Was intercourse
pleasurable for you?
545
00:39:16,938 --> 00:39:18,611
Sometimes.
546
00:39:20,233 --> 00:39:22,076
Did you have orgasms?
547
00:39:24,821 --> 00:39:26,289
Sometimes.
548
00:39:26,781 --> 00:39:28,783
- Do you masturbate?
- No.
549
00:39:29,033 --> 00:39:30,376
Not any more.
550
00:39:30,785 --> 00:39:32,253
Why not?
551
00:39:32,328 --> 00:39:34,296
Because at a certain point,
I just...
552
00:39:35,582 --> 00:39:40,429
I think I didn't want to think
about sex or about Arnold, even.
553
00:39:41,212 --> 00:39:45,968
It just made me sad thinking
about what I missed and...
554
00:39:50,179 --> 00:39:52,432
What about your fantasy life?
555
00:39:54,183 --> 00:39:55,560
Do you have fantasies?
556
00:39:55,643 --> 00:39:56,895
Mmm-hmm.
557
00:39:57,937 --> 00:39:59,189
What?
558
00:40:01,316 --> 00:40:05,366
My fantasy is that, you
know, we'll renew our vows.
559
00:40:07,322 --> 00:40:11,543
Just a little small ceremony,
on a beach, maybe.
560
00:40:11,618 --> 00:40:12,870
Right.
561
00:40:12,994 --> 00:40:14,587
Maybe with the kids there.
562
00:40:15,914 --> 00:40:20,010
Right. And do you
have sexual fantasies?
563
00:40:23,963 --> 00:40:25,681
Imagine scenarios?
564
00:40:26,925 --> 00:40:31,271
Having sex on a mountain top
or dressed all in leather?
565
00:40:36,184 --> 00:40:37,686
That's funny.
566
00:40:38,019 --> 00:40:39,396
So, no.
567
00:40:39,604 --> 00:40:43,199
I mainly think about Arnold
and things that we've done.
568
00:40:47,820 --> 00:40:50,243
You never have fantasies
about things that
569
00:40:50,323 --> 00:40:52,576
you haven't done ever?
570
00:40:53,409 --> 00:40:54,661
No.
571
00:40:59,290 --> 00:41:00,507
No.
572
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:09,217
Okay. Okay.
573
00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:13,309
All right. Arnold,
let's talk about you.
574
00:41:14,973 --> 00:41:17,021
What do you enjoy sexually?
575
00:41:17,100 --> 00:41:18,101
Sex.
576
00:41:18,184 --> 00:41:19,982
I'm going to ask you
to get more specific.
577
00:41:20,061 --> 00:41:21,438
Okay, fine.
578
00:41:21,521 --> 00:41:23,990
So you enjoy the actual sexual act?
Intercourse?
579
00:41:24,065 --> 00:41:25,191
Yeah.
580
00:41:25,650 --> 00:41:27,493
Missionary style.
581
00:41:29,570 --> 00:41:32,574
Would you prefer that
to, say, oral sex?
582
00:41:34,993 --> 00:41:36,586
I guess so.
583
00:41:37,370 --> 00:41:40,089
Was oral sex an option? Is that
something that you would do regularly?
584
00:41:40,164 --> 00:41:43,088
No, I, I, I, I don't... No.
585
00:41:43,167 --> 00:41:45,135
I was not very... I'm...
586
00:41:45,211 --> 00:41:47,930
I was not
comfortable with that.
587
00:41:49,382 --> 00:41:50,929
Giving or receiving?
588
00:41:52,093 --> 00:41:53,140
Huh?
589
00:41:55,179 --> 00:41:58,023
Um, I don't know.
Both, I guess.
590
00:41:58,307 --> 00:42:01,686
Okay. So, now you, Arnold,
would have been open to that.
591
00:42:01,769 --> 00:42:05,364
What does it matter? She just
said it was not an option.
592
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:06,783
What about
problems in the bedroom?
593
00:42:07,275 --> 00:42:10,370
Have you ever experienced
erectile dysfunction?
594
00:42:10,445 --> 00:42:12,368
No.
595
00:42:12,447 --> 00:42:14,120
Use medications
like Viagra?
596
00:42:14,198 --> 00:42:15,199
No.
597
00:42:15,450 --> 00:42:17,452
As we age,
sometimes, it becomes...
598
00:42:17,910 --> 00:42:19,253
It works.
599
00:42:21,289 --> 00:42:23,633
What would you say
was working in your sex life
600
00:42:23,750 --> 00:42:25,377
when you were sexual together?
601
00:42:25,460 --> 00:42:27,633
For instance, would you climax?
Yeah.
602
00:42:28,254 --> 00:42:31,133
Were there things that you
wanted to do, but didn't?
603
00:42:32,175 --> 00:42:33,973
You're kidding, right?
604
00:42:34,635 --> 00:42:36,012
Well?
605
00:42:36,137 --> 00:42:37,354
I mean,
who says no to that?
606
00:42:37,764 --> 00:42:39,391
Right. Then go ahead.
607
00:42:39,474 --> 00:42:40,976
Uh, what,
you want a whole list?
608
00:42:41,142 --> 00:42:42,359
Sure.
609
00:42:43,144 --> 00:42:44,236
Uh...
610
00:42:51,486 --> 00:42:54,285
I'm not really
coming up with anything.
611
00:42:55,823 --> 00:42:58,201
There are no
wrong answers here.
612
00:43:02,914 --> 00:43:04,291
Well...
613
00:43:05,416 --> 00:43:07,089
if you could have
anything you wanted
614
00:43:07,168 --> 00:43:09,136
in your sex life with Kay,
what would that be?
615
00:43:11,756 --> 00:43:16,227
Did you have fantasies that you didn't
feel comfortable telling her about?
616
00:43:16,302 --> 00:43:17,554
Of course.
617
00:43:21,015 --> 00:43:25,145
Well, I guess I used to think
about Kay giving me a...
618
00:43:31,067 --> 00:43:33,411
Giving me oral...
619
00:43:34,862 --> 00:43:36,330
You know...
620
00:43:37,698 --> 00:43:40,201
At work.
Under the desk.
621
00:43:41,869 --> 00:43:43,337
At tax time.
622
00:43:44,872 --> 00:43:46,340
So, public places.
623
00:43:46,415 --> 00:43:48,088
No, not just public places.
624
00:43:48,167 --> 00:43:50,716
No? Okay.
Good, good. Very good.
625
00:43:54,757 --> 00:43:55,974
What else?
626
00:43:57,552 --> 00:43:59,850
A threesome.
627
00:44:02,140 --> 00:44:03,938
With?
The neighbor.
628
00:44:04,225 --> 00:44:05,477
Helen?
629
00:44:06,269 --> 00:44:07,486
No, Carol.
630
00:44:08,062 --> 00:44:09,314
Carol?
631
00:44:10,731 --> 00:44:12,529
Carol with the corgis?
632
00:44:18,656 --> 00:44:20,954
Very good, Arnold.
Both of you.
633
00:44:22,827 --> 00:44:25,797
I am going to give you
your next exercise.
634
00:44:28,291 --> 00:44:31,170
You think we ought to
be sitting for this?
635
00:44:31,544 --> 00:44:32,761
Well,
636
00:44:35,423 --> 00:44:37,300
maybe lying down.
637
00:44:46,267 --> 00:44:48,110
You want to go first?
638
00:44:48,644 --> 00:44:50,442
Do you want me to?
639
00:44:51,105 --> 00:44:52,698
Six of one,
half dozen of the other.
640
00:45:09,749 --> 00:45:11,751
Is that all right?
Fine.
641
00:45:18,633 --> 00:45:20,055
Does it feel good?
642
00:45:20,134 --> 00:45:22,683
It feels like
you're petting a dog.
643
00:45:41,989 --> 00:45:43,241
That tickles. Don't...
644
00:45:43,324 --> 00:45:44,291
Sorry. Okay.
645
00:45:44,367 --> 00:45:46,461
Don't go there.
I'm sorry.
646
00:45:54,835 --> 00:45:57,258
I really don't
see the point of...
647
00:45:58,381 --> 00:46:00,383
I mean, this Dr. Feld...
648
00:46:00,466 --> 00:46:01,683
Mmm-hmm.
649
00:46:02,176 --> 00:46:06,352
...you think he has other legitimate
doctors here who agree with him,
650
00:46:07,682 --> 00:46:11,778
or think he could be
just some sort of a renegade?
651
00:46:16,190 --> 00:46:20,536
You, I mean, well, us,
652
00:46:21,195 --> 00:46:25,792
your average person, you could be being
treated by someone who's psychotic.
653
00:46:27,952 --> 00:46:34,335
Or maybe someone
who's just a very average,
654
00:46:36,585 --> 00:46:39,464
or even
below-average practitioner.
655
00:46:46,304 --> 00:46:47,396
Uh...
656
00:46:55,646 --> 00:46:57,239
I think we better stop.
657
00:46:57,356 --> 00:46:58,824
What?
658
00:47:01,110 --> 00:47:03,659
You sure?
Yeah, I think I just...
659
00:47:07,074 --> 00:47:08,747
I'm going to bed.
660
00:48:24,485 --> 00:48:28,865
So, last night you had
the touching exercise.
661
00:48:30,908 --> 00:48:32,205
How did that go?
662
00:48:35,830 --> 00:48:37,423
How was that for you?
663
00:48:41,961 --> 00:48:44,714
All right,
let's talk about it. Arnold.
664
00:48:45,881 --> 00:48:47,224
How was it
having Kay touch you?
665
00:48:47,299 --> 00:48:48,300
It was fine, I guess.
666
00:48:48,426 --> 00:48:50,019
Did it feel good?
667
00:48:50,469 --> 00:48:52,312
Did you get aroused?
668
00:48:53,514 --> 00:48:54,982
How did that
make you feel?
669
00:48:55,057 --> 00:48:56,400
Aroused.
670
00:48:56,684 --> 00:48:58,652
What about you, Kay?
How did that make you feel?
671
00:48:59,019 --> 00:49:00,646
Oh, I got aroused, too.
672
00:49:00,729 --> 00:49:01,776
Did you know that, Arnold?
673
00:49:01,856 --> 00:49:05,451
How am I supposed to know what
she's thinking or feeling?
674
00:49:07,278 --> 00:49:09,701
How was it for you, Kay,
when Arnold touched you?
675
00:49:09,780 --> 00:49:11,874
Oh, we didn't
get to that part.
676
00:49:11,949 --> 00:49:13,075
Why not? Why?
677
00:49:13,159 --> 00:49:15,878
Because we just stopped.
678
00:49:16,537 --> 00:49:18,835
We did the exercise.
It was done. We did it.
679
00:49:18,914 --> 00:49:22,544
The exercise was to spend a period of
time touching each other sensually.
680
00:49:22,626 --> 00:49:25,470
It sounds like Kay touched
you and then you stopped.
681
00:49:25,546 --> 00:49:27,389
Did you talk about it?
682
00:49:28,466 --> 00:49:29,683
Whose idea was it to stop?
683
00:49:29,758 --> 00:49:32,853
It was mine, okay. I just wanted to stop.
I wanted...
684
00:49:32,970 --> 00:49:34,972
All right. Okay. I didn't
want to do it any more.
685
00:49:35,055 --> 00:49:37,649
All right.
Well, let's go deeper, then.
686
00:49:37,725 --> 00:49:38,817
Let's not go deeper.
687
00:49:38,893 --> 00:49:40,987
It's not enough to just be here.
You have to try.
688
00:49:41,061 --> 00:49:44,941
I'm not trying? I flew 1,500 miles
up here for this and I'm not trying?
689
00:49:45,024 --> 00:49:47,026
All right. Well, then, let's
just try to figure this out.
690
00:49:47,109 --> 00:49:48,281
Why did you
want Kay to stop?
691
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:49,828
I wanted her
to stop because...
692
00:49:51,322 --> 00:49:52,323
Were you afraid?
693
00:49:52,406 --> 00:49:54,408
No! What do I
have to be afraid of?
694
00:49:54,533 --> 00:49:57,002
Fear... Hey, re-engaging can be...
I'm not afraid of my own wife.
695
00:49:57,077 --> 00:50:00,001
Fine. Well, that's okay. It's okay.
It's normal to feel fear.
696
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:01,172
I did not feel fear!
697
00:50:01,248 --> 00:50:03,091
Then why did you stop Kay
from touching you?
698
00:50:03,167 --> 00:50:04,168
Let me tell you something.
699
00:50:04,251 --> 00:50:05,628
I am done with this for today.
700
00:50:05,711 --> 00:50:06,758
I am done.
701
00:50:06,837 --> 00:50:08,589
I'll see you back at the room.
702
00:51:09,817 --> 00:51:10,989
Kay?
703
00:51:14,989 --> 00:51:16,787
What are you doing?
704
00:51:16,865 --> 00:51:19,664
Dr. Feld said
he'd give us a refund.
705
00:51:20,119 --> 00:51:21,666
What percent?
706
00:51:23,455 --> 00:51:24,422
What?
707
00:51:24,498 --> 00:51:27,923
Did he say he'd give us back
the whole payment, or...
708
00:51:29,003 --> 00:51:30,676
Half.
Half.
709
00:51:33,716 --> 00:51:35,718
I don't know what you thought
was going to happen here.
710
00:51:35,801 --> 00:51:37,474
What did you...
711
00:51:37,970 --> 00:51:40,894
I mean, there's no
magic pill or wand or...
712
00:51:40,973 --> 00:51:42,099
He's just a guy
with an office.
713
00:51:42,182 --> 00:51:43,183
Mmm-hmm.
714
00:51:43,267 --> 00:51:45,395
It's ridiculous. You come
up here, you spend one week
715
00:51:45,477 --> 00:51:48,981
and you're supposed to, what,
have a new marriage?
716
00:51:49,440 --> 00:51:52,239
It's a setup.
You're set up for failure.
717
00:51:53,235 --> 00:51:56,034
Then you feel bad about failing.
You see that, right?
718
00:51:57,406 --> 00:51:58,953
You can't win.
719
00:52:04,204 --> 00:52:05,706
Why the hell did
you bring us here?
720
00:52:08,667 --> 00:52:11,591
You know how you think you're
always headed towards something?
721
00:52:11,670 --> 00:52:15,095
You think, "When we get married,"
or, "When we have kids,"
722
00:52:15,174 --> 00:52:18,553
or, "When the kids go
and it's just us again..."
723
00:52:21,889 --> 00:52:25,359
You know, there's always
something to look forward to.
724
00:52:26,560 --> 00:52:30,781
And one day, I realized that we are
not going towards anything any more.
725
00:52:30,898 --> 00:52:32,946
And I guess I was
just not willing
726
00:52:33,025 --> 00:52:35,619
to let go of things
getting better any more.
727
00:52:37,029 --> 00:52:38,406
Not yet.
728
00:52:38,572 --> 00:52:41,701
Maybe you just
don't get a choice,
729
00:52:42,951 --> 00:52:44,203
you know?
730
00:52:44,286 --> 00:52:45,378
Maybe you just
don't get a choice.
731
00:52:45,454 --> 00:52:48,583
Don't forget your
razor in the bathroom.
732
00:52:52,461 --> 00:52:53,883
You're back.
733
00:52:54,463 --> 00:52:56,261
- Let's talk about that.
- Let's not.
734
00:52:56,340 --> 00:52:58,934
Let's just... I'm back, all right?
That ought to be enough.
735
00:52:59,009 --> 00:53:00,511
It isn't, actually.
736
00:53:00,594 --> 00:53:02,471
What do you want
from me, blood?
737
00:53:02,596 --> 00:53:05,019
You have a lot
of anger, Arnold.
738
00:53:05,099 --> 00:53:06,521
What do you think
you're so angry about?
739
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:09,023
I'm angry about everything.
I'm angry about being here.
740
00:53:09,103 --> 00:53:11,322
Why? What are you
afraid will happen?
741
00:53:11,397 --> 00:53:13,900
You want to know what? Fine.
742
00:53:14,441 --> 00:53:15,784
What I'm afraid
will happen here
743
00:53:15,859 --> 00:53:18,328
is what probably happens in every
goddamn therapist's office
744
00:53:18,445 --> 00:53:20,368
every time any poor
couple goes in there.
745
00:53:20,447 --> 00:53:22,916
You say whatever thing,
because somebody like you
746
00:53:22,991 --> 00:53:25,494
is dragging it out of them and
then you can't take it back.
747
00:53:25,577 --> 00:53:28,831
There are things in this life
that you don't say for a reason.
748
00:53:28,914 --> 00:53:30,336
Like what?
What would you say?
749
00:53:31,333 --> 00:53:32,459
Uh...
750
00:53:34,545 --> 00:53:35,762
Tell me.
751
00:53:37,506 --> 00:53:39,804
I want to know.
I want to know.
752
00:53:40,634 --> 00:53:43,228
It's worse not knowing when there
are things that you're holding back
753
00:53:43,303 --> 00:53:45,397
you won't say because you think
I'm too fragile or whatever.
754
00:53:45,472 --> 00:53:47,315
No, it's not that. It's...
755
00:53:47,391 --> 00:53:49,064
Something I can't hear.
756
00:53:49,143 --> 00:53:51,066
All right, fine!
All right.
757
00:53:53,313 --> 00:53:54,815
She has a way...
Say it to Kay.
758
00:53:55,482 --> 00:53:59,532
You have a way of saying
that something's up to me
759
00:53:59,611 --> 00:54:01,739
and then when
I make a decision
760
00:54:01,822 --> 00:54:02,869
and it's something
you don't like,
761
00:54:02,948 --> 00:54:04,245
you don't actually
say anything,
762
00:54:04,324 --> 00:54:06,076
but you sure do get
your point across.
763
00:54:06,160 --> 00:54:09,289
Well, can I just say, I don't like...
Is it my turn?
764
00:54:10,664 --> 00:54:13,417
I don't like the way
that we always do
765
00:54:13,500 --> 00:54:16,344
something for Christmas,
or an anniversary,
766
00:54:16,420 --> 00:54:20,300
that's a joint gift for the
house, like a water heater.
767
00:54:20,382 --> 00:54:21,429
You needed
that water heater.
768
00:54:21,508 --> 00:54:24,136
Yes, but you did, too.
You shower.
769
00:54:24,303 --> 00:54:26,556
Why is that
a special gift for me?
770
00:54:27,097 --> 00:54:28,098
Hmm?
771
00:54:28,182 --> 00:54:31,937
And I hate watching golf.
I do. I think it's boring.
772
00:54:32,311 --> 00:54:35,155
And the shows where they
talk about golf, even worse.
773
00:54:35,230 --> 00:54:37,733
It's like being
married to ESPN.
774
00:54:39,026 --> 00:54:41,779
And when you eat ranch chips,
your breath smells.
775
00:54:41,862 --> 00:54:43,614
I like ranch chips.
776
00:54:43,864 --> 00:54:45,707
And I hate it when
you rub up against me,
777
00:54:45,783 --> 00:54:48,286
like you just
expect me to do it.
778
00:54:48,368 --> 00:54:49,620
"Come on, let's go."
779
00:54:49,703 --> 00:54:52,126
Hell, it got to the point I was
afraid to make any kind of move.
780
00:54:52,206 --> 00:54:54,129
If I even so much as
tried to kiss you...
781
00:54:54,208 --> 00:54:56,336
Well, you never kiss me.
782
00:54:56,877 --> 00:54:59,756
You don't want to kiss me,
you just want "it."
783
00:54:59,838 --> 00:55:01,090
Not me.
784
00:55:01,715 --> 00:55:05,720
You know, he always has
his eyes squeezed tight shut.
785
00:55:10,224 --> 00:55:12,477
It's not me.
You just want "it."
786
00:55:12,559 --> 00:55:16,314
Hell, yes, I want "it." You can
bet your life I want "it."
787
00:55:16,396 --> 00:55:19,525
So screw me for wanting
to have sex with my wife!
788
00:55:20,150 --> 00:55:23,074
And, you know,
it's not pleasant
789
00:55:24,238 --> 00:55:26,366
to do that with somebody
who doesn't want to do it.
790
00:55:28,534 --> 00:55:30,411
But you never saw me...
791
00:55:32,079 --> 00:55:33,422
What?
792
00:55:34,248 --> 00:55:35,420
Go on, Arnold.
793
00:55:35,499 --> 00:55:37,718
I didn't complain
because Kay didn't want sex.
794
00:55:38,085 --> 00:55:41,009
Love. That's what I wanted.
Not just sex.
795
00:55:42,256 --> 00:55:43,883
I wanted you.
796
00:55:44,842 --> 00:55:47,846
Well, what about all those
years I wanted you?
797
00:55:48,136 --> 00:55:50,559
All those goddamn years.
798
00:55:54,226 --> 00:55:56,069
And I didn't cheat.
799
00:55:56,603 --> 00:55:58,321
I didn't go to hookers.
800
00:55:58,438 --> 00:56:00,691
I watched a little porn,
but who doesn't?
801
00:56:00,941 --> 00:56:03,569
I was good.
I did the right thing.
802
00:56:04,069 --> 00:56:06,163
Now you're
bringing me here for...
803
00:56:10,742 --> 00:56:13,916
You're the one
who stopped, not me.
804
00:56:15,873 --> 00:56:19,218
Yeah, for a while I stopped,
yes, but you stopped, too.
805
00:56:19,626 --> 00:56:22,129
You did. You stopped.
806
00:56:22,838 --> 00:56:25,557
Well, you don't just turn
it on and off, you know?
807
00:56:26,633 --> 00:56:29,136
Maybe when it's off,
it's just off.
808
00:56:34,975 --> 00:56:36,022
Off.
809
00:56:44,985 --> 00:56:46,987
I want you to do
something for me.
810
00:56:48,238 --> 00:56:50,536
I want you to tell me about
the best sex you ever had.
811
00:56:51,408 --> 00:56:55,003
The time that you can remember
that was the best. Either of you.
812
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:58,499
Even if it wasn't very good.
Even if it was terrible.
813
00:56:59,082 --> 00:57:00,550
Best time
that you remember.
814
00:57:04,630 --> 00:57:05,882
Well...
815
00:57:06,757 --> 00:57:07,849
Hmm.
816
00:57:08,425 --> 00:57:09,472
Oh.
817
00:57:09,551 --> 00:57:12,020
I remember one time.
818
00:57:13,847 --> 00:57:15,019
Kay was pregnant.
819
00:57:15,432 --> 00:57:17,776
Where were you?
In the kitchen.
820
00:57:19,603 --> 00:57:21,105
She was making soup.
821
00:57:21,188 --> 00:57:25,568
And I came in there and she kept
saying she had to stir her soup.
822
00:57:27,194 --> 00:57:30,198
And pretty soon,
she forgot about that soup.
823
00:57:31,031 --> 00:57:32,499
What do you remember, Kay?
824
00:57:35,619 --> 00:57:39,340
Well,
we were on the floor, and...
825
00:57:44,086 --> 00:57:45,838
And it was slow.
826
00:57:53,512 --> 00:57:57,562
He... He put some dish towels
behind my head
827
00:57:57,641 --> 00:57:59,143
so my head wouldn't bang on...
828
00:57:59,226 --> 00:58:02,480
Wouldn't bump up against
the bottom of the cabinet.
829
00:58:03,313 --> 00:58:05,907
That was...
830
00:58:10,654 --> 00:58:13,373
Arnold, what else
do you remember about that?
831
00:58:14,574 --> 00:58:16,247
Just wanting her.
832
00:58:18,078 --> 00:58:20,922
Just wanting her.
833
00:58:23,834 --> 00:58:26,087
Standing there
in the kitchen.
834
00:58:27,838 --> 00:58:29,090
Happy.
835
00:58:30,465 --> 00:58:32,012
Beautiful.
836
00:58:33,635 --> 00:58:38,391
She had a little apron which was
getting to be too little because her
837
00:58:40,434 --> 00:58:42,528
belly was getting so big.
838
00:58:43,437 --> 00:58:45,610
You were very
attracted to her then.
839
00:58:46,481 --> 00:58:48,529
Yeah, I was, and...
840
00:58:48,608 --> 00:58:50,235
Are you still?
841
00:58:51,820 --> 00:58:55,791
Uh, I don't...
I don't know.
842
00:58:55,866 --> 00:58:58,619
It's been a long
time since we've...
843
00:58:58,702 --> 00:59:00,704
I don't look
like I did then.
844
00:59:00,787 --> 00:59:01,879
No, it's not that.
845
00:59:01,955 --> 00:59:04,003
No. I never could
lose all the weight.
846
00:59:04,082 --> 00:59:08,553
You look fine. I just don't think
of it in that way any more.
847
00:59:08,837 --> 00:59:10,259
About her that way any more.
848
00:59:10,422 --> 00:59:12,720
Well, of course, I...
849
00:59:12,799 --> 00:59:15,177
No,
it's not "of course."
850
00:59:15,594 --> 00:59:17,642
Sometimes when
a connection is lost,
851
00:59:17,721 --> 00:59:19,940
we forget how to
want one another.
852
00:59:22,642 --> 00:59:24,144
Do you still want Kay?
853
00:59:25,645 --> 00:59:27,067
Well, yes!
854
00:59:27,147 --> 00:59:28,524
Do you still
fantasize about her?
855
00:59:30,025 --> 00:59:32,244
You mean, now?
856
00:59:35,906 --> 00:59:37,203
These days.
857
00:59:38,325 --> 00:59:39,451
I don't know.
858
00:59:39,826 --> 00:59:41,453
I don't... I...
859
00:59:44,122 --> 00:59:45,499
I had one.
860
00:59:48,335 --> 00:59:49,712
I had a fantasy.
861
00:59:54,508 --> 00:59:56,010
Was it...
862
00:59:56,635 --> 00:59:57,761
It was...
863
00:59:57,844 --> 00:59:59,687
It was... It was...
864
01:00:02,974 --> 01:00:06,353
Like you said, it was just us,
865
01:00:06,436 --> 01:00:10,782
and it was really different.
866
01:00:10,857 --> 01:00:13,326
Something we've
never done before.
867
01:00:14,820 --> 01:00:16,322
Something new.
868
01:00:28,291 --> 01:00:31,340
I'm going to ask you to take a
leap of faith and try something.
869
01:00:31,878 --> 01:00:36,554
It is most likely way out
of your comfort zone.
870
01:00:37,884 --> 01:00:40,353
Try to think of
it in terms of...
871
01:00:41,471 --> 01:00:44,475
Remember the metaphor
of a nose breaking?
872
01:00:44,558 --> 01:00:46,026
It's the nose.
873
01:00:48,228 --> 01:00:51,277
Well, you can't break
a nose slowly, can you?
874
01:00:58,989 --> 01:01:01,993
Of course there was a problem
with the popcorn popper.
875
01:01:02,075 --> 01:01:03,122
Oh.
876
01:01:04,744 --> 01:01:05,961
Thank you.
877
01:01:06,037 --> 01:01:08,131
I don't see why you can't tell
me what you're planning on.
878
01:01:08,206 --> 01:01:10,254
Because he said
it was fine this way.
879
01:01:10,333 --> 01:01:13,007
It just makes me uncomfortable not to
know what I'm going to be asked to do.
880
01:01:13,086 --> 01:01:15,214
When it's your turn,
you can do what you want.
881
01:01:15,297 --> 01:01:16,549
What if we don't do
the exercise again?
882
01:01:16,631 --> 01:01:19,976
We're moving at
a rapid clip here. Okay.
883
01:01:20,051 --> 01:01:21,519
It's your ball game.
884
01:01:23,263 --> 01:01:25,061
I'll tell you one thing.
885
01:01:25,140 --> 01:01:29,065
You would never get me into a
French movie if we were at home.
886
01:01:46,494 --> 01:01:48,246
This is pretty good.
887
01:01:52,459 --> 01:01:53,506
Oh.
888
01:02:05,513 --> 01:02:06,935
Sorry.
889
01:02:45,637 --> 01:02:47,935
I'm sorry, I can't see!
890
01:02:50,475 --> 01:02:52,694
You just need to take it easy.
Watch it with the teeth!
891
01:02:52,769 --> 01:02:54,612
I'm sorry.
Sorry, I didn't mean...
892
01:02:54,688 --> 01:02:56,156
It's all right.
893
01:02:56,523 --> 01:02:58,366
I can't see.
894
01:02:59,276 --> 01:03:01,119
Oh, God.
895
01:03:14,749 --> 01:03:16,877
Hey, you can hurt someone!
896
01:03:16,960 --> 01:03:19,383
I'm so sorry!
I can't do this.
897
01:03:19,462 --> 01:03:21,180
Kay. Kay. Kay.
898
01:03:22,048 --> 01:03:23,174
Kay, it's okay.
899
01:03:23,258 --> 01:03:24,510
It's not okay!
900
01:03:25,010 --> 01:03:26,557
It's not okay.
901
01:03:30,557 --> 01:03:32,059
Kay, listen.
902
01:03:32,142 --> 01:03:33,940
Kay, this is not a big deal.
903
01:03:34,019 --> 01:03:35,020
I should...
904
01:03:35,478 --> 01:03:36,855
I should...
905
01:03:36,938 --> 01:03:38,815
I'm not good at anything.
906
01:03:38,898 --> 01:03:40,491
There's not anything
to be good at!
907
01:03:40,567 --> 01:03:42,490
I don't know how to
be good at anything.
908
01:03:42,610 --> 01:03:44,612
Listen, wait.
I'm not sexy!
909
01:03:44,696 --> 01:03:46,915
Wait. Yes, you are very...
910
01:03:47,282 --> 01:03:49,284
What?
What? Yes, what?
911
01:03:49,409 --> 01:03:51,628
Maybe you just don't have...
912
01:03:51,703 --> 01:03:55,708
Maybe there's just certain things
you're not experienced at.
913
01:03:57,751 --> 01:03:58,752
Kay!
914
01:04:05,717 --> 01:04:07,936
I must have
looked so stupid!
915
01:04:08,803 --> 01:04:10,680
But how did you feel?
916
01:04:11,431 --> 01:04:12,933
Like a fake.
917
01:04:13,850 --> 01:04:17,855
I'm just not... I'm...
I just can't do that.
918
01:04:18,063 --> 01:04:19,861
Well, the whole situation
was just dangerous,
919
01:04:19,939 --> 01:04:22,783
with those cup holders,
and seat backs going forth,
920
01:04:22,859 --> 01:04:25,203
and back and forth
and the cramped space,
921
01:04:25,278 --> 01:04:28,031
the concrete floor, those
people everywhere.
922
01:04:28,239 --> 01:04:30,207
That's not me.
923
01:04:30,283 --> 01:04:33,537
I just can't be
a person who commits
924
01:04:33,620 --> 01:04:35,293
an illegal act
in a movie theater.
925
01:04:36,498 --> 01:04:39,968
It's just... Is that
really who I have to be?
926
01:04:40,960 --> 01:04:42,212
It's not about
being a sex object.
927
01:04:42,295 --> 01:04:45,765
It's about pleasing the man you love.
And letting him please you.
928
01:04:45,840 --> 01:04:47,763
Well, I don't even
know how to do that!
929
01:04:47,842 --> 01:04:50,265
Ultimately, I think
you have to ask yourself,
930
01:04:50,345 --> 01:04:53,315
"Is this person worth more
to me than my pride?"
931
01:04:53,681 --> 01:04:55,524
Oh, yeah. I mean...
932
01:04:56,434 --> 01:04:57,481
Yes.
933
01:04:57,811 --> 01:04:59,609
Kay's putting it
all on the line here.
934
01:04:59,687 --> 01:05:00,813
What are you
putting on the line?
935
01:05:00,980 --> 01:05:02,448
Everything.
936
01:05:03,983 --> 01:05:05,735
He is everything.
937
01:05:09,155 --> 01:05:10,873
But I'm really lonely.
938
01:05:12,909 --> 01:05:14,536
And I think
939
01:05:16,663 --> 01:05:20,088
to be with somebody
and not really with him is...
940
01:05:25,505 --> 01:05:28,679
I think I might be less
lonely if I were alone.
941
01:05:29,551 --> 01:05:31,349
Do you want to be alone?
No!
942
01:05:32,512 --> 01:05:34,014
I don't know.
943
01:05:37,851 --> 01:05:40,775
You wouldn't think
it would be so hard
944
01:05:40,854 --> 01:05:42,731
to just touch
somebody that you love.
945
01:05:46,401 --> 01:05:48,529
But it is. It's really hard.
946
01:05:56,035 --> 01:05:57,912
Okay. You know what?
947
01:05:58,955 --> 01:06:02,630
I'm going to
give you something
948
01:06:04,169 --> 01:06:07,343
that may help
with your anxiety.
949
01:06:10,258 --> 01:06:12,477
You can pick
this up in town.
950
01:06:34,782 --> 01:06:36,625
Hey.
Hi. Hello.
951
01:06:39,370 --> 01:06:42,465
Oh, we got a discount on trade
paperbacks in the front,
952
01:06:42,540 --> 01:06:44,838
if you're interested.
Oh.
953
01:06:45,084 --> 01:06:46,677
Are you looking
for anything special?
954
01:06:46,753 --> 01:06:47,970
Not really.
955
01:06:48,046 --> 01:06:50,174
All right,
just let me know.
956
01:06:55,929 --> 01:06:57,977
Do you have
a title, miss?
957
01:06:59,098 --> 01:07:01,317
No, not... I'm just...
958
01:07:01,684 --> 01:07:03,982
I was gonna say if you got
a title, I can look it up.
959
01:07:04,062 --> 01:07:05,530
We're short on
shelf space up here,
960
01:07:05,605 --> 01:07:08,404
so we have a lot of
stuff in the back.
961
01:07:08,483 --> 01:07:11,362
Actually, I'm looking for
962
01:07:11,444 --> 01:07:15,324
Sex Tips for Straight
Women from a Gay Man.
963
01:07:17,700 --> 01:07:20,749
Oh, yeah. Dr. Feld has
us keep those in stock.
964
01:07:21,788 --> 01:07:24,132
Oh. Okay.
965
01:07:24,874 --> 01:07:26,501
Can I give you cash?
966
01:07:26,584 --> 01:07:27,756
Yeah, that works.
967
01:07:28,127 --> 01:07:30,255
Couples come to me
for two reasons.
968
01:07:30,338 --> 01:07:33,137
To help them save
their marriage, or...
969
01:07:33,424 --> 01:07:34,721
Or what?
970
01:07:35,301 --> 01:07:36,678
Or to help them end it.
971
01:07:39,347 --> 01:07:41,224
When one person
is this unhappy,
972
01:07:41,307 --> 01:07:45,028
the marriage has to restore
some sort of equilibrium, or...
973
01:07:45,979 --> 01:07:48,653
Or what? Are you trying to
tell me my marriage is over?
974
01:07:48,731 --> 01:07:50,654
Because I'm not gonna pay you
for one more session
975
01:07:50,733 --> 01:07:52,610
just because you threaten me,
you smug little prick!
976
01:07:54,862 --> 01:07:58,036
Arnold, your wife
is very unhappy.
977
01:07:59,075 --> 01:08:01,669
And I'm not saying
that she'll ever leave.
978
01:08:02,120 --> 01:08:06,000
I just don't want you to have
anything to regret should she...
979
01:08:09,085 --> 01:08:11,838
I'm simply
saying the moment is here
980
01:08:11,921 --> 01:08:13,264
and you have to ask yourself,
981
01:08:13,339 --> 01:08:15,512
"Have I done all I could?"
982
01:08:16,342 --> 01:08:17,889
Have you, Arnold?
983
01:08:18,886 --> 01:08:21,355
Is this the best
that you can do?
984
01:08:50,668 --> 01:08:52,341
I'm sorry, there's...
985
01:08:52,420 --> 01:08:56,641
Listen, I can... Maybe a little
tip would help, you know.
986
01:08:57,550 --> 01:08:59,018
You want to buy a table?
987
01:08:59,093 --> 01:09:00,185
I need it.
988
01:09:00,303 --> 01:09:02,476
So whatever...
989
01:09:02,555 --> 01:09:03,852
Look, I need this.
990
01:09:03,931 --> 01:09:09,938
Look, I'm really sorry about whatever
is going on in your marriage,
991
01:09:10,021 --> 01:09:12,570
but I don't think the dinner
was going to save it.
992
01:09:12,649 --> 01:09:14,151
I need a table.
993
01:09:14,233 --> 01:09:18,534
I need it, and I'm not going to leave
from right here until I get it.
994
01:09:50,019 --> 01:09:51,862
We're going to
need more space here,
995
01:09:51,938 --> 01:09:54,566
so I want you to push it further
against the wall. All right?
996
01:09:55,608 --> 01:09:57,235
All right.
997
01:10:17,880 --> 01:10:19,598
Hello. Captain Jack's.
998
01:10:22,051 --> 01:10:26,272
I'm sorry to hear that, Mr. Fletcher.
What time was that for?
999
01:10:26,973 --> 01:10:29,146
Uh, all right.
1000
01:10:29,225 --> 01:10:33,480
Well, thanks for calling. I do hope
you come and visit us sometime.
1001
01:10:33,563 --> 01:10:35,361
Thank you very much. Bye.
1002
01:10:36,983 --> 01:10:38,656
All right.
1003
01:10:39,527 --> 01:10:41,120
That goes away.
1004
01:10:47,118 --> 01:10:48,370
Well?
1005
01:10:48,453 --> 01:10:51,423
Got a waiting list.
Got to call them.
1006
01:10:51,497 --> 01:10:55,673
You got a waiting list? You will
give me that table, so help me God!
1007
01:11:10,183 --> 01:11:11,526
Are you ready?
1008
01:11:12,351 --> 01:11:14,194
I'm almost ready.
1009
01:11:51,265 --> 01:11:53,859
You really ready? 'Cause
I don't want to be late.
1010
01:11:55,603 --> 01:11:57,651
Yes, I'm really ready.
1011
01:11:57,730 --> 01:11:59,573
Very pretty.
Thank you.
1012
01:12:00,233 --> 01:12:02,156
You look really nice, too.
Yeah, I do.
1013
01:12:02,235 --> 01:12:03,737
You handsome devil.
1014
01:12:07,323 --> 01:12:11,419
Oh, Arnold.
It's gorgeous!
1015
01:12:24,257 --> 01:12:25,804
I just can't get over it!
1016
01:12:26,300 --> 01:12:27,347
You like it?
1017
01:12:27,426 --> 01:12:28,473
Mmm.
1018
01:12:28,553 --> 01:12:30,931
This is just exactly...
1019
01:12:31,013 --> 01:12:33,107
A little different
than the Econo Lodge?
1020
01:12:34,851 --> 01:12:36,853
Completely different.
1021
01:12:39,647 --> 01:12:42,776
That place reminds me of when we
drove down to see your mother,
1022
01:12:42,859 --> 01:12:44,236
before we were married.
1023
01:12:44,986 --> 01:12:47,284
And we stayed at
that little place...
1024
01:12:49,282 --> 01:12:51,125
You know, it was the only
place that was open.
1025
01:12:52,243 --> 01:12:53,665
It was a truck stop.
1026
01:12:55,496 --> 01:12:57,123
In Albuquerque?
1027
01:12:57,206 --> 01:12:59,504
Oh, I remember that.
It had orange walls.
1028
01:12:59,584 --> 01:13:00,801
Uh-huh.
1029
01:13:01,377 --> 01:13:02,424
Yeah.
1030
01:13:03,296 --> 01:13:05,298
That was the first
time you said it.
1031
01:13:07,300 --> 01:13:09,519
First time you
said you loved me.
1032
01:13:09,594 --> 01:13:10,971
In that little motel.
1033
01:13:16,017 --> 01:13:18,145
You know,
before you said it...
1034
01:13:20,479 --> 01:13:23,403
Well, I didn't want to
be the one who said it first,
1035
01:13:23,482 --> 01:13:26,361
but I just...
I had to say it!
1036
01:13:26,777 --> 01:13:29,280
So every time we
talked on the phone
1037
01:13:29,363 --> 01:13:33,334
I would say it to
the phone after we hung up!
1038
01:13:33,492 --> 01:13:34,584
Really?
1039
01:13:34,660 --> 01:13:36,708
Yes, I really did that.
1040
01:13:37,079 --> 01:13:40,253
I figured if I ever said anything
like that, you'd take off running.
1041
01:13:40,875 --> 01:13:41,967
What?
1042
01:13:42,585 --> 01:13:44,929
You could have
had your pick.
1043
01:13:46,839 --> 01:13:50,309
I didn't think
you'd ever want me.
1044
01:13:51,677 --> 01:13:54,305
I never wanted anything more.
1045
01:14:04,565 --> 01:14:07,865
What I don't get is how he
remembers to talk like that.
1046
01:14:09,528 --> 01:14:13,158
"Consider the metaphor
of the nose."
1047
01:14:14,283 --> 01:14:16,126
I know.
It must be so hard for him.
1048
01:14:16,202 --> 01:14:17,795
I wonder if he talks
to his wife like that.
1049
01:14:17,870 --> 01:14:18,962
That would be...
1050
01:14:19,038 --> 01:14:21,882
"Mildred, I find it very
interesting that you are naked."
1051
01:14:28,589 --> 01:14:29,715
Can I bring you
anything else?
1052
01:14:30,007 --> 01:14:31,930
Do you...
No, I'm fine.
1053
01:14:32,009 --> 01:14:33,101
Okay. No, just the check.
1054
01:14:33,177 --> 01:14:35,225
Unless you want to.
No, check, please.
1055
01:14:38,808 --> 01:14:40,810
Might get chilly
on the way back.
1056
01:14:42,478 --> 01:14:44,025
It's been
getting cold at night.
1057
01:14:46,899 --> 01:14:48,993
Well, the thing is, I've...
1058
01:14:50,194 --> 01:14:52,743
I don't know how
you'll take this,
1059
01:14:53,447 --> 01:14:55,120
but I got us a room.
1060
01:14:57,410 --> 01:14:58,457
Here.
1061
01:14:59,787 --> 01:15:01,209
You did?
Mmm-hmm.
1062
01:15:01,998 --> 01:15:05,343
The front desk has toothbrushes.
I asked them.
1063
01:15:08,254 --> 01:15:11,428
I thought maybe just
for a night, it'd be...
1064
01:15:12,174 --> 01:15:13,767
You might want to...
1065
01:15:16,846 --> 01:15:17,893
So,
1066
01:15:19,098 --> 01:15:21,567
after this, we can just...
1067
01:15:31,318 --> 01:15:32,615
Like it?
1068
01:15:33,112 --> 01:15:34,455
Gosh!
1069
01:15:35,239 --> 01:15:37,287
Oh, my gosh.
1070
01:15:39,618 --> 01:15:40,619
Oh!
1071
01:15:41,704 --> 01:15:43,251
Look at this.
1072
01:15:50,212 --> 01:15:51,555
Look at this!
1073
01:15:53,632 --> 01:15:55,509
Here's some strawberries.
1074
01:15:56,469 --> 01:15:57,766
You had to get them,
1075
01:15:58,888 --> 01:15:59,980
so here they are.
1076
01:16:00,639 --> 01:16:02,357
Anyway, you want some?
1077
01:16:02,475 --> 01:16:03,977
Huh?
Strawberries.
1078
01:16:07,063 --> 01:16:08,110
I'm kind of full.
1079
01:16:08,314 --> 01:16:10,157
Yeah, me, too.
And they knew that.
1080
01:16:10,232 --> 01:16:12,075
It's a rip off, really.
You spend 15...
1081
01:16:12,151 --> 01:16:15,496
That's okay. You know, I think
I would like to have some.
1082
01:16:16,030 --> 01:16:17,498
Yeah?
Yeah.
1083
01:16:18,157 --> 01:16:19,158
Okay.
1084
01:16:24,163 --> 01:16:26,586
Do you want to eat them
at the table? Okay.
1085
01:16:26,707 --> 01:16:29,426
Or we could eat them in
front of the fire. Okay.
1086
01:16:29,543 --> 01:16:30,590
Okay.
1087
01:16:32,338 --> 01:16:33,635
Um... Oh.
1088
01:16:39,678 --> 01:16:41,100
On.
1089
01:16:42,973 --> 01:16:44,190
Sweet.
1090
01:16:54,151 --> 01:16:55,323
Mmm.
1091
01:16:55,402 --> 01:16:56,995
Is it good?
1092
01:16:57,113 --> 01:16:58,956
Mmm! It's good.
It's fresh.
1093
01:16:59,031 --> 01:17:00,374
Good.
1094
01:17:00,616 --> 01:17:02,539
Chocolaty.
Good.
1095
01:17:02,701 --> 01:17:03,702
Mmm.
1096
01:17:07,748 --> 01:17:09,750
You want some? There's
champagne, if you want.
1097
01:17:10,417 --> 01:17:11,543
Yeah. I know...
I'm sorry. Go ahead.
1098
01:17:11,627 --> 01:17:13,095
No, you go.
1099
01:17:13,212 --> 01:17:14,680
There's champagne.
1100
01:17:18,008 --> 01:17:20,386
You want some? I think I
would like that, Arnold.
1101
01:17:31,564 --> 01:17:32,611
Ohh!
1102
01:17:50,875 --> 01:17:52,593
I guess you have
something in mind there.
1103
01:17:52,668 --> 01:17:54,261
Mmm-hmm.
1104
01:17:57,214 --> 01:17:58,841
I do.
1105
01:18:00,092 --> 01:18:01,685
Hold that thought.
What?
1106
01:18:03,095 --> 01:18:04,187
Hold that thought.
1107
01:18:04,263 --> 01:18:06,357
Oh. Okay.
1108
01:18:33,626 --> 01:18:34,969
Come here.
1109
01:19:35,312 --> 01:19:37,064
I want... I want...
1110
01:19:37,147 --> 01:19:38,273
You want to...
1111
01:19:38,357 --> 01:19:40,234
All right.
You want to... You want to...
1112
01:19:40,317 --> 01:19:41,409
Yeah.
1113
01:20:09,888 --> 01:20:11,890
Look at me.
1114
01:20:34,663 --> 01:20:35,664
You lied.
1115
01:20:35,748 --> 01:20:36,920
No.
1116
01:20:39,668 --> 01:20:44,765
When Dr. Feld asked you if you
were still attracted to me.
1117
01:20:50,929 --> 01:20:52,226
It was when you looked at me.
1118
01:20:54,933 --> 01:20:56,560
Just now.
1119
01:20:57,269 --> 01:20:59,692
You looked in my face.
1120
01:21:00,606 --> 01:21:02,779
That had
nothing to do with it.
1121
01:21:06,570 --> 01:21:08,789
That's when you stopped.
1122
01:21:22,461 --> 01:21:26,807
Setbacks are a natural part of the process.
They never feel good, though.
1123
01:21:30,636 --> 01:21:32,855
I know you feel
like you've failed,
1124
01:21:32,930 --> 01:21:36,355
but look where you failed. You
fumbled on the one-yard line.
1125
01:21:36,683 --> 01:21:40,062
When you got here, you weren't
even on the playing field.
1126
01:21:40,312 --> 01:21:42,735
You were somewhere
in the parking lot.
1127
01:21:43,023 --> 01:21:46,368
So I think you're ready to follow
up with a therapist at home.
1128
01:21:47,319 --> 01:21:49,697
I can recommend
somebody really good.
1129
01:21:52,783 --> 01:21:56,708
I have patients who never
should have gotten married.
1130
01:21:57,329 --> 01:21:58,956
And you are not those people.
1131
01:22:03,919 --> 01:22:07,969
Even great marriages
have terrible years.
1132
01:22:09,299 --> 01:22:12,929
So bad that you're
tempted to just give up.
1133
01:22:14,263 --> 01:22:15,856
But don't.
1134
01:22:16,974 --> 01:22:18,317
Hold on.
1135
01:22:19,685 --> 01:22:23,781
There will come a time when
you'll look back at this moment
1136
01:22:25,232 --> 01:22:28,702
as the prelude to
something fuller
1137
01:22:30,404 --> 01:22:33,658
and richer than
you've ever dreamed.
1138
01:23:54,238 --> 01:23:55,285
Soames!
Yo.
1139
01:23:55,364 --> 01:23:57,207
Hey, how was that vacation?
Good!
1140
01:23:57,282 --> 01:23:59,125
Yeah. Where was it, Vermont?
Maine.
1141
01:23:59,243 --> 01:24:01,166
Maine. That's right.
You said Kay likes the ocean.
1142
01:24:02,037 --> 01:24:04,586
So, how was it?
You going to go back?
1143
01:24:04,831 --> 01:24:07,254
Um, probably not.
It's a little overpriced.
1144
01:24:07,334 --> 01:24:10,304
Yeah. I hear you, but, hey, if it
keeps the missus happy another year,
1145
01:24:10,379 --> 01:24:12,347
I'd say it's well
worth the money spent!
1146
01:24:12,422 --> 01:24:13,423
Yeah.
1147
01:24:18,011 --> 01:24:19,854
Jon Ross came in today.
1148
01:24:19,930 --> 01:24:20,897
Mmm-hmm.
1149
01:24:20,973 --> 01:24:23,021
You'd think it was the first
time he'd ever heard that
1150
01:24:23,100 --> 01:24:26,525
October 15th was the
deadline for an extension.
1151
01:24:28,355 --> 01:24:30,699
The guy never filed
on time in his life!
1152
01:24:31,275 --> 01:24:34,905
And we have the same
conversation every year.
1153
01:24:35,779 --> 01:24:38,032
Every goddamn year.
1154
01:24:39,700 --> 01:24:42,169
For 17 years.
1155
01:24:44,162 --> 01:24:46,164
Can you imagine that?
1156
01:24:54,631 --> 01:24:56,128
Hi, again, everybody.
School of Golf
1157
01:24:56,174 --> 01:24:57,926
is back in session
for another week.
1158
01:24:58,010 --> 01:25:03,562
This week, it is Chapter 24,
"It's All About the Putting Stroke."
1159
01:25:03,849 --> 01:25:06,523
I'm Kraig Kann. This is the
professor, Martin Hall.
1160
01:25:06,602 --> 01:25:08,024
Putting.
We're rolling it tonight.
1161
01:25:08,103 --> 01:25:10,902
Well, yes. We all want
to hit it fewer times...
1162
01:25:25,579 --> 01:25:26,922
So you guys
had fun, huh?
1163
01:25:28,457 --> 01:25:31,131
Kind of hard to get
back into the old routine.
1164
01:25:31,209 --> 01:25:32,256
Mmm.
1165
01:25:33,879 --> 01:25:35,301
What is it?
1166
01:25:36,006 --> 01:25:37,053
You look like
you could cry.
1167
01:25:37,132 --> 01:25:38,133
No!
1168
01:25:38,216 --> 01:25:41,186
Do you still need somebody to take
care of that cat when you go away?
1169
01:25:41,261 --> 01:25:43,889
Oh, we already got
the girl next door.
1170
01:25:44,014 --> 01:25:45,891
But I don't trust her.
She's not bright.
1171
01:25:46,516 --> 01:25:48,063
Well, I could do it.
1172
01:25:48,435 --> 01:25:49,687
Really?
Mmm-hmm.
1173
01:25:50,228 --> 01:25:52,196
Oh, gosh, are you sure?
1174
01:25:52,272 --> 01:25:55,071
Because I think I might
have a spare key with me.
1175
01:25:55,609 --> 01:25:57,577
And maybe
I could stay over.
1176
01:25:59,196 --> 01:26:01,415
A night, or two nights.
1177
01:26:04,159 --> 01:26:06,287
Well, sure. You do that.
1178
01:26:13,251 --> 01:26:14,753
I saw The Caine Mutiny
is on later.
1179
01:26:14,836 --> 01:26:16,008
Mmm-hmm.
1180
01:26:16,088 --> 01:26:17,840
You want to watch it?
I don't think so.
1181
01:26:17,923 --> 01:26:19,846
I'm just going
to go up to bed.
1182
01:26:21,301 --> 01:26:22,302
Kay.
1183
01:26:22,386 --> 01:26:24,104
I'm just a little tired.
1184
01:26:26,473 --> 01:26:27,941
Is it really
all that bad?
1185
01:26:30,769 --> 01:26:32,863
It's just expectations.
1186
01:26:32,938 --> 01:26:35,532
Like one of those makeovers,
you know?
1187
01:26:37,275 --> 01:26:39,903
You look different
for a minute
1188
01:26:39,986 --> 01:26:42,284
and then go back
to yourself, right?
1189
01:26:45,283 --> 01:26:46,705
Right?
1190
01:26:49,913 --> 01:26:52,382
I don't know if I can.
1191
01:26:54,793 --> 01:26:56,136
What?
1192
01:26:58,672 --> 01:27:00,674
I don't know
if I can go back.
1193
01:27:15,188 --> 01:27:16,986
You sure this is
a gallon can?
1194
01:27:17,149 --> 01:27:20,153
Yes, sir, it's a lard can. Just
took it from the pantry, sir.
1195
01:27:21,737 --> 01:27:24,707
I suppose you're wondering
why I called this meeting.
1196
01:27:24,781 --> 01:27:27,705
As you all know by now, we had an
excellent dessert for dinner tonight,
1197
01:27:27,784 --> 01:27:30,003
ice cream and
frozen strawberries.
1198
01:27:30,579 --> 01:27:34,174
An hour ago, I sent Whittaker to the
pantry to bring me another portion.
1199
01:31:00,789 --> 01:31:02,041
Kay.
1200
01:32:10,608 --> 01:32:12,781
You are beautiful.
1201
01:32:25,290 --> 01:32:28,043
You... You...
1202
01:33:28,686 --> 01:33:30,279
I'm late.
1203
01:33:30,688 --> 01:33:32,816
Oh. Okay.
1204
01:33:34,025 --> 01:33:35,698
Well, have a nice day.
1205
01:33:35,777 --> 01:33:36,778
Okay.
1206
01:33:37,445 --> 01:33:38,697
Chicken tonight.
Good.
1207
01:33:38,822 --> 01:33:40,745
With potatoes and
maybe some spinach.
1208
01:33:40,824 --> 01:33:42,371
Good. No spinach.
1209
01:33:43,326 --> 01:33:45,294
Okay. 6:00?
5:30.
1210
01:33:52,544 --> 01:33:53,887
What's the matter?
1211
01:33:54,754 --> 01:33:56,097
What'd you forget?
1212
01:34:19,445 --> 01:34:21,072
Have a nice day.
1213
01:34:25,743 --> 01:34:27,370
Arnold!
1214
01:34:28,580 --> 01:34:30,253
Arnie!
1215
01:34:34,210 --> 01:34:36,633
Hey! Hi!
1216
01:34:36,880 --> 01:34:38,257
Carol!
1217
01:34:39,090 --> 01:34:40,933
You got another corgi!
1218
01:34:41,593 --> 01:34:44,517
I know. This is Emma.
1219
01:34:45,889 --> 01:34:47,766
But three's the limit.
I'm done.
1220
01:34:48,308 --> 01:34:49,400
How was y'all's trip?
1221
01:34:50,018 --> 01:34:52,817
Our trip was...
Our trip was really...
1222
01:34:54,022 --> 01:34:56,696
You should come over tonight and
we'll tell you all about it.
1223
01:34:56,774 --> 01:34:58,367
That'd be great.
I'd love to.
1224
01:34:58,443 --> 01:34:59,444
Yeah.
1225
01:34:59,611 --> 01:35:01,739
All right.
I'll see you guys later.
1226
01:35:01,821 --> 01:35:02,822
Okay.
1227
01:35:07,410 --> 01:35:09,333
That's not going to happen.
1228
01:35:20,506 --> 01:35:22,304
Kay. Arnold.
1229
01:35:23,676 --> 01:35:26,475
We are all here
today to witness
1230
01:35:26,554 --> 01:35:28,977
the renewals of your
vows of matrimony.
1231
01:35:29,891 --> 01:35:33,065
We are thrilled, and I
especially am very thrilled,
1232
01:35:33,144 --> 01:35:36,364
to be here and to be a part
of this very special day.
1233
01:35:36,606 --> 01:35:40,452
Arnold,
after 32 years of marriage,
1234
01:35:40,860 --> 01:35:44,785
I can honestly say that I love
you more than I ever did.
1235
01:35:45,490 --> 01:35:47,663
The day I met you
changed my life.
1236
01:35:48,534 --> 01:35:50,002
It made my life.
1237
01:35:51,329 --> 01:35:55,254
And now I can't imagine
living my life without you.
1238
01:35:55,875 --> 01:35:57,752
It wouldn't be any
kind of life at all.
1239
01:35:58,461 --> 01:36:03,183
When I think about spending
the rest of my life with you,
1240
01:36:04,342 --> 01:36:07,391
I only regret it
won't be long enough.
1241
01:36:08,805 --> 01:36:10,148
So I want to now
1242
01:36:11,099 --> 01:36:14,273
make this next chapter
of our lives together
1243
01:36:14,352 --> 01:36:17,356
something that
we'll both cherish.
1244
01:36:18,815 --> 01:36:23,286
I vow to watch more golf with
you without complaining.
1245
01:36:26,531 --> 01:36:28,283
I vow to watch less golf,
1246
01:36:28,950 --> 01:36:31,794
and to buy you good presents
that aren't for the house.
1247
01:36:33,621 --> 01:36:34,793
Maybe like jewelry.
1248
01:36:34,872 --> 01:36:35,919
Like jewelry.
1249
01:36:35,999 --> 01:36:38,548
Jewelry. Yes.
1250
01:36:39,043 --> 01:36:41,762
I vow not to cut my hair
any shorter than it is,
1251
01:36:41,838 --> 01:36:43,761
'cause I know
you like it long.
1252
01:36:43,840 --> 01:36:44,966
Longer.
1253
01:36:45,049 --> 01:36:47,723
I vow not to
complain so much.
1254
01:36:48,052 --> 01:36:49,144
If I can help it,
1255
01:36:49,220 --> 01:36:50,972
because sometimes
there's something
1256
01:36:51,055 --> 01:36:53,103
that really needs to
be complained about.
1257
01:36:53,182 --> 01:36:55,560
And I vow to go to one
of those sleep studies
1258
01:36:56,561 --> 01:36:59,155
like you've been
asking me to go to.
1259
01:36:59,230 --> 01:37:01,699
And I vow to take you
somewhere once a year
1260
01:37:01,774 --> 01:37:03,697
that's more than 200
miles away from home
1261
01:37:03,776 --> 01:37:06,074
and isn't to see
a family member.
1262
01:37:08,072 --> 01:37:10,575
Now, on this wonderful day,
1263
01:37:11,117 --> 01:37:13,290
I give you
the rest of my life
1264
01:37:14,662 --> 01:37:17,882
and I thank God every
day that you're in it.
1265
01:37:18,249 --> 01:37:21,219
And I vow to
tell you how I feel,
1266
01:37:21,294 --> 01:37:24,093
not just when you ask me.
1267
01:37:25,965 --> 01:37:28,309
And I'll tell you
how I feel about this.
1268
01:37:28,760 --> 01:37:31,559
I love it. I love you.
1269
01:37:41,773 --> 01:37:46,745
We will have the ceremonial
breaking of the nose.
1270
01:37:58,790 --> 01:38:00,258
See? That wasn't so hard.
1271
01:38:01,959 --> 01:38:03,256
Thank you.
1272
01:38:05,713 --> 01:38:07,306
Yes, a big boy.
1273
01:38:07,799 --> 01:38:09,426
Congratulations.
1274
01:38:21,771 --> 01:38:23,489
I'm so glad
to meet you!
1275
01:38:23,564 --> 01:38:25,032
Finally!
1276
01:38:28,945 --> 01:38:30,663
Brad, Brad, Brad!